SHARE Because it felt important and timely, I deviated last week from my central topic to write a short piece on deceptive marketing practices affecting untold numbers of returning Veterans with G. This week brings a refocus on the central theme of this blog: What are the multiple reasons that well-educated people have better marriages relative to the general population?
In addition to being a highly accomplished group, well-educated people are thoughtful planners and strategists. They do not leave their futures—including their marriages—up to chance, but instead proceed through life in a very intentional manner. Many have delayed receiving their relatively high incomes for several years to pursue graduate degrees. Similarly, the married respondents in my well-educated sample The Lifestyle Poll indicated that they spent an average of 3.
These quite happily married women knew what they were looking for and spent considerable time building their relationships before making the decision to partner for life with their husbands. Within the Lifestyle Poll sample, the average age at marriage was also significantly higher than the average age of marriage for the population at large. Specifically, the average age at marriage for women in the Lifestyle Poll sample was The average age of marriage across the United States for the same time period was When the bride threw the bouquet, the cluster of single women immediately jumped away from it and the unclaimed bouquet landed on the floor.
I believe it may have ricocheted off my hand, because someone handed me the bouquet now that I think of it, I realize I was, in fact, the next to get married.
Any earlier, and both people are still figuring out who they are. They are starting to establish themselves in the working world, they are still maturing emotionally. If two people really love each other and are committed, why not wait a few years to get married? Plus you can usually afford a better wedding and honeymoon. I thought I really knew who I was just after college You are a full grown-up and know yourself better than you did in your 20s.
But if I were to peg an age, it would probably be around 30—old enough to know yourself, but young enough to grow with someone.
I thought he was cute, and funny, and he was a jazz musician, so we shared that common interest that was not necessarily common among the other friends that I had. When we finally did get close to settling down I already knew that he and I were compatible as individuals—what I required from him was the promise that he was really ready to be committed to the intensity of a serious relationship we had broken up a few times, mostly because he felt unready to be serious The collective wisdom of the Lifestyle Poll participants to wait until the late 20s or early 30s before marrying fits with clear consensus in the literature.
We might even see a parallel between indulging in the cocaine -like high of falling in love with a string of unsuitable partners, and taking ecstasy, because both decrease the range of maximum pleasure capacity in all future cases. A later age of marriage and a more lengthy courtship explains in some part the high levels of marital satisfaction reported within my well educated sample of respondents. Bureau of the Census.
Accessed March 8, Why Happiness Eludes the Modern Woman.