When's the last time you did something for the first time? Well, this is the year of changing things, so I did exactly that. Yup, I signed up for Speed Dating. Realistically, I have always known that I will never meet the kind of guy that I am attracted to in a bar.
Not even a nice Winter Park bar. I am a Netflix and family kinda girl. The occasions that I do go out for fun nights in Orlando are far and few between. It is just not my scene. Hopefully when I do meet my match he will be perfectly ok with binge watching television and playing Sudoku. Oh, and fun 5k races. I hope that he is ok with those too! So why did I decide to sign up for speed dating?
I had a few reasons actually. The first was curiosity. I have seen a ton of funny speed dating scenes in romantic comedies. You really never know what might happen when you are meeting 10 new people over the course of an hour.
The second reason was that I have never tried it and I want to experience a bit of everything this year! The third reason was that part of me hoped that I might make another friend or two with similar interests.
That should make up for all the years of lonely V-Days. February 10, at 7: You walk into the bar and you get a name tag with a number on it. After that there is free time to order yourself a drink. For me it was the house Cabernet which was surprisingly good. Then you sit at the table with your number on it. The other 8 was a super nice guy named Jess. Once the gong goes off you have 6 minutes to make interesting conversation, and after 6 minutes all the guys stand up and move over one spot to the next person.
This continues until everyone has had a chance to meet everyone. You know what I loved? There were very few awkward pauses at all during the entire night. All of the guys were outgoing and sweet. Well, I lied because there was one really awkward pause about half way through. One guy opened our conversation with a vulgar and thoroughly inappropriate joke.
He started laughing hard at his own joke, so I laughed too. About half way through my laugh I realized what he said and immediately stopped. I think I must have given him a bad look because it was real weird for a minute. He apologized and the rest of our conversation was great! Just trust that it is not first impressions appropriate.
I love to laugh! But I think that if someone feels that they have to open with a sexually explicit and inappropriate joke then that says a lot about the kind of person that they are. I was really hoping that I would sign on to write my blog this week and have a ton of crazy stories from speed dating.
The truth is that I met 10 really nice guys and I enjoyed my six minute conversation with each of them. They were all very individual, and they all had great stories. I had a blast!
In fact, I regret that I have never done this before. Paying for this almost a month in advance and then forcing myself to go through with it when I REALLY did not want to anymore, was tough.
Sometimes I think the new experiences that focus on conquering social fears are even harder than the ones that are adrenaline packed and super high up. Will I do this again? Maybe, but probably not. I am not really in a stage of life where I want to just date for fun anymore. My girlfriends all swear by online dating, and that is the route that I will go. I like the idea of meeting people with similar personality traits.
In the meantime, I am single and that is ok! The best thing about the 52 Things Project is that I am learning how to really enjoy my life without necessarily having to be tied to someone else. It leaves me time to better myself, read more, volunteer more and be with my family more. It felt real nice.