So many wrongs in society are tolerated because they have been justified by the way African men are perceived to be. It is time to correct this nonconstructive perceptions… 1. When an African man loves his car, he will tell people about it and show off; when he loves his success, he will talk about it; when he loves his woman, he will tell her and the world.
African man, you live only once; if you are truly committed to your woman, what are you waiting for to show love to her? Why are you bothered by what people will think? Romance is not just pulling up a chair for her or writing her poetry; romance is everything a man does to make his woman feel special, melting her heart with deeds and words, looking out for her. African man, why are you in the name of culture excusing yourself from pleasing the woman you used to romance during courtship?
An African man is capable of committing to one woman just as he expects her to commit to only him. African man, chasing after another woman yet you vowed to your wife to be faithful to only her has nothing to do with culture, but everything to do with your weak character and strong levels of selfishness 4.
Far too often, it is a common scenario during the death of African man that the women they have been with and their children, show up to want a piece of his inheritance. This is nothing to celebrate, no matter how successful the man is. This is the manifestation of poor leadership.
A man leads his home, he brings about order 5. A woman is not a slave to be beaten up in order to toe the line. She is the pride and joy of a mature man. Hitting your wife is a sign of how immature you are 6. In his castle, he can offer to cook, he can clean the compound, he can make the bed with his wife, he can paint the walls, he can change the light bulbs; he reigns in his castle. His wife is not his house help to order around, but his queen. Before he married his wife, he used to live alone as a bachelor and he used to do house chores.
Why should things change and dump all his mess and responsibilities on his wife, now that she is with him? But every man is different, there are many African men loving petite, small, not so curvy women.
To each his own. African men, stop making other women feel not beautiful enough 8. Just because they are the husband, they want to be worshiped and revered at home. African man, leadership is not about being feared but about serving and giving yourself for the happiness and peace of your home. Come down from your false deity throne 9.
They mock the man he is being sat on by his wife and he should put her in her place and show her he is the boss. African man, you will not always be right. Your woman will sometimes call you out or have a better idea than you. Listen to her, she has alot of interest in your life, she is looking out for you.
You are married to her, not your friends. She is your partner, discuss things with her. This is not a battle of the sexes, this is love, this is marriage. You need her, she needs you African man, it is wonderful to celebrate your roots, but incase you find love in a woman from a difference race, love her. You will not be any less of an African, you will be a man in love. Love knows no tribe or race African man, embrace the man-hood God has given you.
In bed, remember pleasing your wife is not about the size of the body or the organs of the body; but about skill. He is defined by his character, his heart, his values, his love, his confidence as he is. It is not a must that you have a son. If God gives you a female or male child, be the best father regardless of gender. This is your daughter, never let her grow up feeling unwanted or goods for sale.
Your legacy can still continue in your daughter, just like in your son. Empower your daughter and you will never regret it Men can cry, they can cry as they worship their God, they can cry when death of a loved one knocks them, they can cry when they are touched. This hardened view is what makes many African men hurt silently inside and then the hurt gets manifested in harmful ways on others.
It is OK to be human. Find your corner, cry sometimes. Turn to your woman, breakdown in her embrace sometimes. It will help you heal and live It is called living life. Feel, African man, feel.
You cannot shape and mould your child from a distance. We have too many adults who have grown up wishing their dad was there to love and mentor them.
It hurts when you have a father who is alive that you are not close to. How sad it is when some African men are quick to blame their wives when their children turn out wrongly and quick to take credit when that child they are distant frfrom turns out well For some, that big tummy is actually cause to worry for his health.
African man, why are ruining relationships in the name of misplaced culture. Be the bigger man, do the right thing; say sorry Love is thicker than blood Love is demonstrated by acts of service. If you love her, massaging her, checking up on her, pampering her when she is pregnant will not feel beneath you. You will enjoy making her smile. Put down this misplaced culture and love your wife. She will love you even more in return. Women respond very well to love Shares Tags: He is often described as "The Artist Inspired by Love" because of his use of artistic expressions to inspire, celebrate and help understand the mystery of love.
Baide This means am not an African man? The must be our great grand father Eugene Sande great piece of writing, you have set record straight You may also like