Sohini Das Gupta Updated: Oct 25, , He calls it temporary mind management. Of course, it's been a while since promise-free hook-ups became the not-so-guilty pleasure of younger Indians.
Given the rising stress levels in all quarters of life, the patience required of a long-term commitment has lost votes. What was once a fad in metropolitan fast lanes has now moved onto a larger canvas. Dating metricsOne look at the data by virtual connect-space TrulyMadly shows that smaller towns — Tier 2, Tier 3 and beyond — have warmed up to instant connections that may or may not culminate in lasting commitment.
And if Sachin Bhatia, co-founder, TrulyMadly, is to be believed, the uncertainty posed by this 'may not', is hardly a turn off for light-hearted liaisons. TrulyMadly stats reveal that the percentage of users from places other than the six designated A-1 cities Mumbai, Delhi, Kolkata, Bangalore, Chennai and Hyderabad have increased by percent since the start of this year.
It recorded some 4, users from Nagpur, 3, from Guwahati and an eye-popping 13, from Asansol. In a little feminist win, stats also show that 30 per cent of the site's user base is made up of women.
Not a discouraging balance, given our skewed gender ratio. Sachin reasons, "India is changing socially and culturally. Relationships are the starting point of this change. Girls are unwilling to commit early on—they want to suss out four-five guys before deciding who is the one. Look around, almost everyone has considered it at some point, right? It's just less easily discussed when you are living in a closed environment," she says.
Asked about inhibitions when it comes to casual dating, she chuckles, "Lame question! How can it be right or wrong to want your personal equations be a certain way? This dating site positions itself as a "meaningful interactive platform" for young professionals across states. Then again, the idea that connections made at random are less than "meaningful" is under fire, considering the collective insistence on open interactions.
In fact, she insists that the tendency to engage in casual romance, should it be called so, is not "new at all". There's an associated feeling of freedom and the opening up of private space. There is flexibility and adventure here, and we are eager to explore. So let us explore," she says before cheekily calling this a "post-modern crisis". Whether flings are a new-age crisis or a cultural continuum, they are symptomatic of a reality that's putting down roots down in unsuspecting grounds — the small town east of your metro, or that woman you thought craved commitment.