Katarina Phang 29 comments What is dating without drama or dating with dignity actually all about? My method assures your dignity remains intact always. Ruby feels after two months of dating, he should want to move the relationship forward but so far he only sees her once a week with not much communication in between.
She is thinking of walking away because she feels so attached already. This is an interesting behavioral pattern of an anxious-avoidant. Nice dinner, then we went to my place and watched a film. He showered me with compliments, I felt he was really present.
Then I did not hear from him yesterday. In past relationships where there has been a similar level of intimacy, attraction and interest, a momentum builds due to communication and frequency of seeing each other.
Trust builds, too, when people do what they say they will do. Communication is key here. And yes, still dating other guys, but no one has compared. Is it ok to communicate to him somehow that I love hearing from him? This is hard, Katarina! I also had a VERY insecure childhood which left me with a lot of anxiety as an adult, and insecure attachment.
This is dating with drama. Everyday in my job this scenario is repeated over and over with different women who are looking for answers on how to deal with this issue. There are a few things that warrant serious scrutiny here: How can you feel so deep about a guy who keeps a safe distance from you, who only sees you once a week and with little communication in between? And this is actually common among women who are avoidant emotionally unavailable themselves.
So I was gravitated to him because he was safe and distant because I needed the distance myself to sort my head out and regain and enjoy my independence. Ruby, having just broken up from her boyfriend only a less than a year ago, is exactly in that stage.
Bringing the talk only makes you appear presumptuous,dramatic and pushy. A lot of women do that and they are not getting what they want cause it shows a lack of decorum and it is plain reactive and unattractive. He wants a prize, not a desperate housewife wannabe. Putting a guy in a corner never works. Most men stay away from drama. What is the purpose of this drama prone guilt trip imposed on him? In the long run, you want him to want to do all those things because his heart, his love and adoration toward you compel him to do so, not because you tell him to do so or threaten him.
You want to be a high-value woman in his eyes so you gotta stop all these chasing behaviors yes bringing up the talk is chasing that are simply not high-value and downright pushy, needy and masculine. Yes you are an alpha female but if you want an alpha male, you gotta at least act beta with him.
What you have to do is to manage your investment and attraction. Yes they are actually manageable. Use your single card, that is what rotation is for. Find a few guys who are just like him and you will never have to so get ahead of yourself or any guy. My method assures your dignity intact in every situation. You impress him so much. He has never met a woman like you: That recognition from any man will further strengthen your self-esteem and you will see that there is no need for all these anxiety induced expectations and expectation induced anxiety whatsoever.
This is what dating with dignity is all about. Ruby just got engaged on August 18, engagement no. She practiced what I told her on this article on him and it worked like a charm.
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