When we began to learn about Western culture, we were absorbed by its value in marriage. Unlike Chinese men, Western men valued highly the true love and soul touch in a lifelong relation, did not care about the age!
When Chinese men are successful and earning more money, they are considering looking for much younger girls even at cost of destroying the families. This is one of the major reasons of rising divorce rate in China! To avoid more heart-break, some Chinese women turn their eyes to Western world and seek the right men on some dating sites.
Then they are very surprised to find how strong Chinese culture is invading Western culture. Every real person on the sites says he or she hates lies and wishes the people they are talking to tell the truth about themselves. However, even some Western men sincere in seeking wives lie about their own age so that they can be accepted by much younger women. This makes a good match especially difficult!
Yes, a lasting and happy marriage relies on the feelings and thoughts of both sides. Nowadays more and more Western men are interested in Chinese culture, but few have noticed the age difference in a marriage that Chinese women are fond of. What age differences in a marriage do Chinese women usually like and tolerate? For most Chinese women, their tolerable age difference is within 10 to 12 years, i.
Their preferable age difference is within 5 to 8 years! This is deeply rooted in the bones of many Chinese women. There ARE good Chinese zodiac matches within 8 year age differences. In old China when marriages were arranged by parents, the age difference could be much bigger but the women were not happy with that.
In the modern society, marriage are mostly based on love in the soul and heart, few women want to live up with that any longer. You may see a relation with a very large age difference, it is probably not absolutely a rich man- young girl or a very successful man-young girl combination in which the young girl gets a shortcut to a good life.
Are you a rich man or a very successful man? Do you want that kind of life? There is a Chinese saying, 3 years make a generation gap. The larger the gap, the fewer the opportunity they think and act the same way.
Most of the men on the sites say they are looking for soulmates. Are they really doing so? They may say they can also find much younger soulmates. They will know what after knowing the real modern Chinese culture for marriage. Unlike Westerners, most of Chinese have their children at the age between 25 and 30 or even earlier. Chinese women even get puzzled, and even think it might be the general case nowadays in the whole Western world.
Consequently, some women choose to accept the large age difference. They take the second choice and marry their Western uncles at the stage they are curious about the Western uncles and Western world. What will happen in the long run after the Chinese women taking their second choice? What if the Chinese women get into the Western world and find out the situation is totally different in the real Western world from the Chinese-Western dating sites?
I have the idea of giving this thread after knowing some real stories online. I met some Western men on Chinese dating sites who are absorbed by Chinese culture and Chinese women.
They had their Chinese wives for the second marriage. Sadly their Chinese wives left them in years. Their hearts were broken and told me their second wives lied and left them for rich men. I was so sorry for them and sympathetic to them. After talking further with them, I found a common trait in them, i. Or generation gap stands out after the fresh period of marriage? Maybe their Chinese wives did not tell them the true reason of their leaving for avoiding hurting them further?
They will never reach the truth of departure unless they realize it by themselves. Why are Western men seeking Chinese women as their wives?
Chinese women are usually humble, loyal, diligent and family-oriented. Another reason should be that Chinese women look younger for their age than Westerners.
Just imagine a 55 year-old Western man happily get a 35 year-old Chinese woman as his wife. About 5 years later when she is 40 and he is 60, she will find her husband looks much older than her own father, and thinks and acts far different from her generation! They are no longer soulmates! They can hardly reach in agreement and may have less and less communication. The consequence is obvious!!! Of course, there are some women whose feelings grow stronger with each passing day together.
They are angels from heaven. The point is whether how many men are good enough to deserve such angles! I got to know that a very ordinary Chinese woman with neither good appearance nor knowledge found her happiness online quickly because she was very smart to change her age to be 10 years younger.
She found her Western husband of about the same age and they are happily together. Actually Western men can never recognize the real age of the Chinese women who take good care of themselves. These women can also lie and say they are 10 years younger than their real age. Is it what you Western men expecting? My intension is to arouse the attention of those Western men who want to start a lifelong marriage from here to consider the need of Chinese women. A marriage satisfying the needs of both sides will last forever.
Any opinion or objection is well accepted!