Get a free download from Austin Stone Worship! Enter your email for your free download! The download link has been sent to your email! Enter your email and we'll send the link for your download. A good place to begin before dating is on your knees and clearly communicating with God about His will for your life. Many people have suffered greatly in their relationships because they neglected to spend time with God before dating.
The world has lost the beauty of discovery in courtship as it pushes people towards sexual relationships. Do make it a habit to pray first before responding yes or no to a date. Abraham sent his senior servant to seek out a wife for his son, Isaac. It should be no less serious for a child of God to seek His wisdom and direction before the first date and on every date afterwards. You or your date may be new to the faith or still need to grow up spiritually. Will you be troubled if your date drinks or not?
Will your conscious be convicted if the movie is rated R? Be gentle and courageous to speak up if you are uncomfortable and need to feel secure on your date. Do seek out the advice of wise people about your date. Keeping secrets about your dating desires or experiences can complicate your situation as sin loves to hover in the darkness. Be open and honest about your expectations in dating situations. Allow a third person of accountability to be a part of your decisions so that you keep yourself from the appearance of evil.
Some Christians make the grave mistake of not really being who they are in Christ when they are dating. There are times when people play down their faith when they really feel convicted or they play up their faith to give a faulty impression of spirituality.
God knows your heart and motives—stay in tune with God even during the date. Do respond to your date as your brother and sister in Christ. Romance, infatuation, and emotions are always readily available in the beginning of a relationship. However if you allow yourself to be immersed in any of them, you will lose your focus and direction in the relationship.
You also run the risk of not seeing your date as they are, but rather how you imagine them to be. Recognize your weaknesses and desires with a willingness for the Holy Spirit to gently prod you towards a realistic view of your date.
Dating can be a wonderful and fulfilling experience if you are willing to trust in the Lord and take the steps to guard your heart. When the time is right, God has the best interest for you and your date.
Begin your relationship with a God focus so that you can look back in honor with no regrets. Crystal and her husband, Marshall, raise their five children in the Bloomington, IL.
As a freelance writer and editor for over 13 years, Crystal has published numerous Christian curriculums for Sunday School and VBS as well as many articles dealing with marriage, motherhood, and relationships.