Warren August 11, at 1: But we need to deal with reality, not fantasy. But, much more likely is that your kid will seek out a fake ID, willingly enter the club, and eagerly start drinking.
The problem is not adult predators tricking and coercing teen girls into meetings, but teen girls willingly seeking out hook-ups with older guys often guys in their 20s. Rebecca August 11, at 1: How many parents rejected this idea? If not, how many did NOT fall for this crap. He did not present evidence that the girls sought out these encounters. So absent that info this is nothing more than a targeted sting designed to entrap these girls.
Why does he not show the days of texts? How often did he ask for a face to face and they said no? Not wise regarding not knowing who actually was online, but not like going to an out of the way location in a strange part of town. Since the other 2 were at night, I think this girl was also asked to meet at night and refused. Does the father regularly go to sleep and leave his daughter up alone? She did say she was lonely, so more to this story than meets the eye. Was this the 1st time left alone?
I have daughters so I understand why parents are concerned, but establishing trust is best parental gift. Not so sure these parents have fully succeeded in that area. I do hope all three of these families can work past this manipulative and exploitive bit of self aggrandizing video.
Steve August 11, at 2: What does this tell us? I suspect almost anybody could be tricked. The problem with many parents is they give their kids no credit for having any ability to suspect suspicious behavior. I would like to see a bunch of hoaxing of helicopter parents to demonstrate how clueless THEY are.
She never heard back so maybe the trip never happened. Can you take me somewhere to meet him? Just like, most women are raped or assaulted by romantic partners, or ex-partners, than by strangers. Just like we never talk about how a huge amount of sexual abuse of children is perpetrated by other, slightly older children, but instead assume that when we talk about rates of sexual abuse we are always talking about abuse perpetrated by an adult.
For us middle-aged parents, it can be challenging to remember when we were that energetic. Our kids, of course, are in that branching-out phase that we went through so long ago. Home and the immediate family are their reference-points, and a place to find rest and refuge when they get burned out in the great big world, but their energy and interest is still almost solely focused on that great big world.
The girls did make some stupid mistakes perhaps not the first girl, that was at least daylight and not alone. I enjoyed this so much I just had to repeat it. It wouldnt let me create a fake name. I had to use my real one. The fact that i can use my real name without fear means that the internet is quite safe.
I have international friends via tumblr, and theyre all very nice and understanding when i need advice. Papilio August 11, at 3: Sooooo… As much as I hate scaremongering, this guy does have a point.
Tx gal August 11, at 3: While this guy may be scaremongoring, you may also be blissfully naive. We live in an upscale area in Northern TX. For the past two school years, there have been several attempted abductions of kids in route to and from school. Stranger danger is real, and your children need to 1 be attended and 2 be taught to be aware.
This video shows how the lack of either can result in a tragedy. These kids being left unattended, with opportunity, is part of the problem. E August 11, at 3: Just this morning I got a really good email concerning google drive that had me click once before I realized it was sketchy.
There are people that use the internet to deceive. These kids are at the age where parents begin to realize that no matter what you do, say, suggest, or model as behavior, they are old enough to be left alone or go with friends and nothing you can do about their decision making while they are gone. But kids will always outsmart parents and find other ways to take risks. Just look at Snapchat. I am not a fan of most forms of social media. Between oversharing personal information, duckface young girls, and those who have Facebook balls see the comments on the viral FB video Lenore posted a few days ago and say things they would never say to someone in person, I DO think there are many real dangers.
We, as parents, need to figure out WHY. Painting teens as victims, not responsible for their poor choices does not help. John August 11, at 4: I think there needs to be a good balance of common sense and wariness. I mean, just a week or so ago we were talking about the 15 year old who murdered his neighbor.
Going to meet a person you only know online in person by yourself is probably a bad idea in most cases, and parents should talk to their kids about the dangers of that, no matter what the age of the person. It becomes this weird tautology where we decide that people cannot be dangerous because they do not fit our stereotype of what a dangerous person looks like.
People, including teens, are going to be dating and meeting people via the internet more and more. We should be teaching how them to do it safely.
Even if somebody is definitely absolutely your age and seems super nice, you need to take basic precautions: M August 11, at 5: Teens do things they know are wrong and potentially dangerous. They drink, have unprotected sex, do drugs, drive recklessly, lie, and stay out past curfew.
They make these choices willingly, if stupidly. Have you raised a teenage girl? God love the little poops, but they have NO brains!! These girls did and it scares the shit outta me. Follow your kid to the park in the middle of the day?
Warren August 11, at 6: These are not teen specific actions. And I would bet that the number of adults doing these exact things far outnumber the number of teens doing them. I have a teenager. They do have brains and are capable of demonstrating good judgement if that is what the expectation is. We have rules and consequences for breaking them. So far, so good. BL August 11, at 6: Crystal August 11, at 7: Dhewco August 11, at 8: Everybody has a their own opinion and you can disagree without being insulting.
Kimberly August 11, at 9: Children need to TRUST that if they make a mistake, or if something happens, their parents will be there for them. Tricking your child and then punishing them for falling for the trickery, publicly shaming your child through releasing a video, etc. What it does build is wariness.
If my child is attacked or raped while drinking at a club, will she come to me for help or support? Thankfully, so far, my teens and I have relationships built on trust and dialogue. James Pollock August 11, at 9: But… she is a smart, capable young woman. My work was done well. Grammy August 11, at 9: Perhaps it will be real to these girls now. Perhaps it will help them not to be a victim.
Kids always think it happens to someone else. Well, these girls learned it happened to them. It may save their life someday. K August 11, at 9: