The 12 Rules for Dating a Colleague Win the heart of your office crush. By Cassie Shortsleeve As Americans work longer and longer days, one thing is inevitable: According to a survey of roughly 2, people conducted by Mic, the third-most common way people find romantic attachments is through work. Another survey, conducted by CareerBuilder, revealed that at least a quarter of all working professionals have confessed to dating a colleague in the past. But how should you proceed?
Some companies ban office romance outright, while others ban dating among direct colleagues, such as superiors and juniors and teammates. You should consult your employee handbook, and if that's not clear, ask your HR department directly.
Simply look around, says Bartell. In these early stages, you should also try to catch her eye, as well. Start by checking out the 25 New Rules of Office Style. Build off of that friendship: Your safest bet for a partner is a peer—someone on your own organizational level, says Chory.
And while dating someone above you on the corporate ladder is often against the rules anyway, it bears repetition: That extra mental leg work is insurance: In an ideal world all works out, but if everything fizzles to a fling, you have to see this person every single day—and act professional doing it.
You can't just walk away and not see that person again. Plan it for the next day or a few days later and make it a sit-down restaurant no, your go-to sub shop doesn't count. A good lunch allows for conversation about the things you both enjoy—and a chance to find out what overlaps and what your next date might be. Drinks, on the other hand, can put you in a vulnerable situation where the relationship could move … well … too fast. And yes, that means being on your best behavior at corporate happy hours, group lunches, and routine coffee breaks.
Her research finds that one of the most common complaints employees have about their coworkers dating is that arguments spill over into the office, disrupting work. And then make sure your courtship goes the distance with The Secrets to the Best Relationships.