April 13, at 8: I know we are into each other. He tried to impress me every date we had. We only had three dates in the past 5 weeks. He put a lot of effort to make time for me.
I really appreciated that. Can anyone share experience of dating a lawyer? So you have to decide if you could handle this long term if you did become exclusive.
You will always be second to work. They have billable hours to get in quotas really that they are measured against and rated in terms of qualififying as partner material. So pressure is always on. There are no 9 to 5 hours, so late nights and weekends are typical and taking calls on the fly from clients and collegues. If you have a lot more time on your hands this may not be a good match for you. Or just looking for occasional companionship. Because I have seen the latter…attorney usually do well dating other attorneys or like professions because they can relate to stressful and long hours.
Women who are not and become housewives usually end up raising the family and carrying most of the domestic burdens. You will need to be pretty independent, confident and capable of doing your own thing if you want a relationship with a man like this.
If your needy and require a lot of his time then you will be miserable. I actually prefer these men because I like space and very independent but majority of women need constant validation and his TIME to feel secure and loved. Which type of woman are you? April 13, at My job requires a lot of time, too. And I do oil painting, and dance for the rest of my time. I always have full schedule for a week. So I am not that needy.
Dating a lawyer does fit my schedule. It allows me to do my own things. But i am worried we both do our own thing. Then we will not be able to move forward in this relationship. I really like him. So I want to be his girlfriend. Have you had sex with him yet? You could meet at the gym. Have a quick breakfast or coffee. You could perhaps mention that it would be nice to spend less formal date time doing small things..
I slept over in his apartment once. Actually, our office buildings are next to each other. I feel he is a little passive. That means he keeps you hanging? He should be fitting into your schedule.. So this means you are waiting on him? Do you ever turn him down? April 14, at 4: He was working on Sunday. Any man will make time for you — one way or another — but with certain professions time is a limited commodity…doctor, lawyer, etc. You determine that by quality time and are you moving ahead in your relationship.
April 14, at 9: Because he always wants me to make a hickey on his neck. He is very cautious about move forward in a relationship. He told me none of women he dated could handle his schedule. They always left him. So he got hurt many times.
And he is trying to be a partner. He has to work extra hard to prove himself. So I am giving him some time to understand and trust me. Because I really like him. I think trust can not be build in 5 weeks. April 14, at In the beginning we still managed to see eachother at least once a week but maybe because that was during the holidays. Their work load is never ending so with mine we used to get together for yoga or take an hour to hike some trails, sit in the hot tub for 30, things that reduce stress or have some purpose.
Also, these men are thinkers, their trained to not only be able to argue dual perspectives, but WIN their arguments. Sorry April 14, at He wants to work his way up to partner. He told me that.
And he works on finance investment cases. So I understand how busy he would be. Because I dated a hedge fund investor before. I know how that type of people work.
I feel very insecurity. I am trying to think about the positive side. No matter how busy he is, he always responds my texts. It is up to you what you are able to handle or not.
No one knows u better than you. So even though the guy was a great guy and rich to boot I said pass. So a lot of ladies can give you advice here but you are the only one who knows if you can handle it or not. Also what really are you looking for? I thought I hit the holy grail out of law school at landed a job at a top-tier firm.
The minimum billable requirement there was 2, hours per year, which equates into a lot more working hours.
Then I decided to go out and hang my own shingle, which took up even more time between client work, marketing and administrative tasks. Nonetheless, when I had a relationship I wanted to invest in, or any other interest for that matter, I made time for it.
Someone who truly wants to see you will do so, all excuses aside. If you choose to continue I would suggest being less accomodating.
Three weeks is nothing and lawyers DO get incredibly bogged down with work that is often out of their control. July 15, at 9: Their schedule is rough. He takes his work home with him and would be doing paper work until midnight. He is on the phone most of the time, even on weekends since he has his own firm.
I have come to the realization that this is how its going to be for as long as I am with him. My advice to anyone who is thinking of dating a lawyer is to go with the flow and see where it goes. Be open with him about what you want out of the relationship. I meant seen my kids times a year for the past 4 years.