Shares 5 Ever wonder what it's like to date an independent man? Perhaps, you already have someone similar on your dating list but just need that last push to give it go? Whatever is your reason, here's a complete rundown of the Pros and Cons of having an independent boyfriend and how to deal with them. It's important to weight the good and the bad before you plunge into any relationship!
Pros of having an independent boyfriend 1 Very Confident individual People with individualistic personality are more often than not, accomplished individuals. They're self-assured, confident and collected. They're the type that can get things done even if they had to do it alone, heck; they might even prefer it that way.
This aura of strength surrounding him can be incredibly seductive and comforting for many women. From cooking to fixing broken hardware to giving himself a haircut, he's perfectly capable of doing it all.
Due to how efficient he is in the house, taking care of you is as easy as he breathes. From cooking to housework to becoming your personal masseur, he can do it all and does it well. Besides, who doesn't like a man that can cook? The grandiose view of him taking over the kitchen is just as appetizing as the meals he cooks.
They're ambitious and goal-orientated. They have their set of agendas that needs to be met and dreams that needs to be fulfilled.
They don't easily back down from obstacles and can think outside of the box in dire situations. However, this loyalty isn't easily earned and require a lot of communication and trust before he finally opens up to you. He won't get in the way of your career or outing with your friends. You have free rein of the time you spent apart from him. In addition to being a shoulder to cry on, he's also a great problem solver that can give advice and wisdom that goes beyond his years.
Cons of having an independent boyfriend and how to deal with them 1 He won't always be around This will most likely be the biggest problem when dating an independent man. He's always on his feet doing something or going somewhere. He won't always be around to spend times with you because his daily schedule is often full of meetings and events.
Furthermore, from time to time, he asks for alone time to think. This can be a deal breaker for many women. However, there's a solution around this.
You can pester him all you want, but it won't address the root of the problem. Won't you free up some time and spend it with me? Sometime down the road, you will get tired of asking, and he will probably get annoyed too. To fix the problem, you both need to sign a "Relationship Agreement. Don't make the mistake of assuming that he will magically know what you want from him and then get upset when he doesn't meet it. Make your needs known to him!
These terms and conditions are incredibly effective, and I recommend it if you want a healthy long-term relationship with an independent boyfriend! A relationship is a problem for them. The fact that they have to lay out their heart and expose their vulnerable side to you can send a chill down their spine. They can't see the good it comes with a relationship.
They're always fixated on the potential damage a relationship can cause to their lives and their career. That is why some independent men are hot and cold. Once they caught on the fact that they're harboring feelings for you, they immediately want to back off.
So you need to let him SEE what a real romantic relationship is like. Take things slow and give him time to be comfortable with you. Don't play the passive aggressive game. If possible, be direct and straight forward. This will make it easier for him to accept you and understand you. A genuine compliment now and then will help to lower his guard and subtle caring gestures will help you make him slowly fall in love with you. It's also important that you don't pretend to be someone you're not, they can easily see through your mask and immediately label you as "fake.
This is all fine and well if he can keeps this authoritative dictatorship in check. However, if he starts to control every aspect of your life, then we have a problem. Set your boundaries and set them early. Let it be known to him of what you can overlook and what you absolutely cannot tolerate.
NEVER keep quiet of what is bothering you, address the issue as soon as it comes up! Don't be afraid of a little argument; it's part of a successful relationship! Negotiate and make compromises! If you hadn't already, make a "Relationship Agreement," it will save you from many relationship headaches! No one likes to be kept in the dark, especially not when he's suffering and going through something alone. You need to let him know that, as his girlfriend, you want to have a share of his happiness as well as his burden, too.
Make a habit of paying close attention to his facial expression and body behaviors for signs of "restless" and "uneasiness. You can begin by having a light conversation with him, then slowly redirect the topic to his strange behaviors. Offer comforts and support when necessary, kisses and hugs when he's about to fall apart. A beautiful appearance is always welcome, but traits he finds most desirable are those that can instill stability in a relationship.
He's not your casual one night wonder; long term is what he aim for. This isn't too difficult. Personality wise, having a straightforward and understanding attitude will earn you a lot of points in his book. Coupled with a small dose of feminine charm, you may be on your way to "relationship.
He just needs a serene environment for him to think. Think of him as an electronic that's low on battery, this is his way of recharging, so don't freak out! You don't need to do anything, just patiently wait for him to come to you. If you fail to give him the space that he needs, you will end up pushing him away and sabotaging the relationship. Many people have problems handling criticisms, so when you want to criticize him on something, make sure it's also accompanied with a compliment!
An independent man may seem distant and intimidating at first, however, beneath that icy mask is a face that's full of love and compassion. They may be hard to deal with initially, but it's definitely worth the effort.
If you're a woman seeking a dedicated man for a monogamy relationship, then an independent man is for you! If you find this list helpful, make sure to leave a comment below and let me know how it went for you!