I'm going to come back to this in a second But first, let me ask you something: Have you been working on your dating skills with women, but you feel like you've only been getting a small part of the bigger picture? Have you been trying to make changes in your habits and behavior - maybe trying to get rid of your "nice guy" persona, but you just can't seem to make these changes stick for very long? Do you feel discouraged because you know what you SHOULD be doing when it comes to dating women, but you keep falling back into old habits?
Do you want to have that "bootcamp" experience, but also keep getting input and advice on a regular basis to keep yourself motivated? Have you realized that you don't have the level of self-discipline you need to be consistent? Have you experienced some positive results with women from time to time, and you could clearly see what made those moments work, but you only get those results occasionally? Have you ever felt like every day is an up-down roller coaster, and you just can't keep up your determination and drive?
Do you ever feel like just giving up and quitting on yourself, even when you know you shouldn't, but it just gets so difficult to continue without support? And you don't know where to get it? Well, let me tell you, you're not alone Seduction is a very controversial and charged word, and it carries a lot of baggage with it.
The dictionary defines seduction as: And even the nicer definitions say: But the reality is really nowhere near the standard "dictionary" definition. Stick with me here for a minute or two and I'll tell you how seduction is something completely different than you probably think You know, ever since I could remember, I always liked girls I had a crush on one girl in my 1st grade class named Julie.
Dark hair, dark eyes. I even called her up on the phone and asked her over for dinner. Of course, her mom came over with her, and my parents were there, so it wasn't exactly a romantic evening. Hey, I was six years old! My fascination with girls only got stronger as I got older And then, when I got into high school, I realized that there was more I wanted from these girls, and that they had what I wanted.
And that's when the "Game" began. I chased girls, trying to get them to like me and want me. Trying to get something "off her I had my girlfriend Lynn over, and she told me something that I will never forget We love doing it with guys. You'd never enjoy it or appreciate it.
We just want you to work a little for it. If guys are essentially playing a game to get the same thing that women want, then it's not all "bad" is it? I was ashamed for years of my natural masculine desire for women, and that shame stopped me from giving women the one thing they desperately wanted Women WANT you to seduce them because they secretly ache for a man who can take them on a magical journey of romantic temptation.
In fact, here's a secret about "seduction" that most guys do not know In fact, what we have is a game where women WANT men to think they are "seducing" them, because this gives men what they want - the sex, the thrill of the chase and winning the "game" AND this gives women what they want - the sex, the thrill of being chased, and being "won Let me say it again Women want the exact same things men want.
They just have a different timetable. But here's something else that l didn't discover until later Let me ask you this first: When you were a kid, did you ever want a toy so bad that you couldn't sleep at night? Of course you have. It's like that kid Ralphie in the movie "A Christmas Story.
And when he finally got it, it was like he'd been given the Holy Grail. What if he had asked his parents for that B-B gun and they just gave it to him right away? No laying awake at night looking at the picture of the cowboy with the Red Rider gun - and wishing he had one Do you think the same thrill would be there? Am I going to sit here and tell you that you need to wait for weeks and weeks to seduce a woman?
And women don't want you to take too long either, because that would make you seem a bit LESS sexually attractive. It's not about the TIME to seduce a woman. It's about HOW you seduce her. I want to say that again, because it's so darn important It's not about spending a lot of time with a woman to get her to feel comfortable getting physical with you.
It's about HOW you spend that time with her. There are quite a few ways to get a woman to feel this way with you. The one way you don't want to have to do it is by having to buy her a drink, or bring her flowers. You see, the more you try to "buy" her affections by making her feel obligated to like you, the less she will actually want to do it. And believe me, attraction is not something we consciously choose.
First, let me ask you: Have you ever heard of this thing called "pickup bootcamps? And these guys all want an answer to the same question Yes, his name is changed to protect the innocent His name is Craig. Craig was about 28 years old, decent looking, average build. He lived in New York City, one of the biggest singles "hot-spots" in the world.
You'd look at him and think, this guy's not a model, but there doesn't seem to be any reason why he couldn't get a date. But that was the problem. He couldn't see a reason, and most other guys couldn't either. Well, in our training, I took him out into the field to a couple clubs , and it took me a little while to figure out what his challenge was, but it was there, plain as day. He Was Just "So-So Just a bit on the "not expressive" side.
We made some small improvements on each. First of all, Craig was wearing polo shirts that were tucked in all the time, with a pair of old running shoes. This is not good fashion. So we went to a few good men's clothing stores and got him a quick upgrade to his wardrobe. Nothing radical here, just a new pair of shoes, a cool belt, and a couple good shirts.
Instantly this changed his look for the better. After that, we targeted the subjects and topics of conversations. Craig was asking a lot of plain questions about the background of the women he was meeting, instead of getting them involved emotionally with him right off the bat.
Just changing up his conversational style added huge improvements. Next, I gave him some exercises to strengthen and improve the tone of his voice. Here's what you need to know Craig is the average guy that wants to learn these dating techniques and secrets. They're just missing a few small details. He's only a few short steps away from breaking past his own inner hurdles. And chances are, YOU have a few things in common with Craig.
Maybe you've got just a few small things holding you back. You know you don't need a full makeover, but you just want some methods to polish up a few areas where you're not feeling confident about yourself. Here's a little math trick that you can use - and you're going to find it VERY cool Don't worry, we're not digging into algebra here! You might be tempted to multiply 5 x 15 to get 75 and assume that's the answer, but that's the common mistake most people make.
I call this the "5 by 15" Rule. You could do that in your sleep, couldn't you? Well, that's what I do for guys. And I do this by showing you ALL the different ways that you can get better results in your game with women.
There are a lot of areas where you might need some work.