This insider information can help you better navigate it. By Emma Haak Photo: The more narcissistic a person is, the more beguiling they seem when you first meet them. The discovery came out of a recent study in the European Journal of Personality where researchers had subjects take personality tests before they went on speed dates with other participants. Men and women who displayed more narcissistic characteristics were rated as more desirable for both short- and long-term relationships by their fellow speed daters.
Keep in mind that the researchers weren't measuring clinical narcissistic personality disorder , but if you meet someone with that, even more reason to run very far away.
We wondered how it could possibly be that subjects failed to spot a self-centered person when they were literally sitting right in front of them, but lead study author Emanuel Jauk, PhD, professor of psychology at the University of Graz, in Austria, has an explanation. If you've got a narcissist in your life, romantic or not, we've got advice on how to deal with them here.
An Attractive Stranger's Jokes Can Reveal Their Intentions If you're looking for love and the person you're chatting with is using the old flirtatious-teasing approach think self-deprecating jokes or using other people, like, well, you, as the punch line , you're probably not after the same thing.
Both men and women tend to use this type of negative humor when they're interested in something short-term, found forthcoming research led by Theresa DiDonato, PhD, an associate professor of psychology at Loyola University Maryland. There's a catch though: Subjects were more likely to use positive jokes, like pointing out the awkwardness of hitting on someone at the bar, when they were pursuing short- and long-term relationships.
So while a warmer sense of humor is no guarantee that you're on the same page, a string of darker jokes is a warning sign that you're definitely not. The Odds of Whether You Two Will Stay Together There are four types of couples, found a study in the Journal of Marriage and Family , and depending on which category you and your partner fall into, these researchers say they can predict how likely you two are to get married.
After interviewing more than couples about their relationships over the course of nine months, the researchers came up with these four types: Dramatic couples had lots of highs and lows, little in common with each other, and not much overlap in their social networks; conflict-ridden duos dealt with lots of you guessed it conflicts in addition to separate social networks, and were the most likely to have a love based on passion; socially involved pairs' relationships were grounded in friendship, they tended to socialize as a pair and said that influential people in their lives, like their parents, really liked their partner; partner-focused couples had shared interests and spent more of their time together than other couples, but each had their own separate circles of friends.
Not surprisingly, dramatic couples were twice as likely as any other type to break up during the study. That's not to say that socially involved couples are doing anything wrong.
They tend to develop deeper levels of commitment over time with fewer ups and down than any other type of couple, including partner-focused. Think of them as a slower but steadier burn in the right direction. If you and your partner sound like the conflict-ridden duos though, a surprising word of warning: They're less combustible than dramatic couples, but the most likely to stay in the same spot commitment-wise, not moving toward a breakup or toward marriage.
So if you want a relationship that progresses, it might be time to look elsewhere. Subscribe to the relationships newsletter Sign up for the oprah. Get more inspiration like this delivered to your inbox Please accept the Oprah.