Men also talked about being told that when they lose weight, it's "for a woman. My weight has varied a lot over the years. When i lose weight people assume it's to improve my love life.
I get comments like "you're doing this for a woman aren't you? There is a screenshot somewhere of a conversation literally seesawing between "you fat bitch - i want to fuck you - fat cow" ad nauseum. Hardest thing has definitely been men who had no issue telling me how beautiful my body was in private but were embarrassed by my body in public????
I am at practically at heaviest and get more play now than when I was a size 8. Ghosting was also a major issue. Talking to someone online then After we meet he stops interacting with me. Feeling like it's solely coz of my weight. My ex had such weird issues with my weight. Apparently plus-size people should be "grateful? No, no, no, no, no. Some women opened up about men not accepting that they can be attracted to a woman who wasn't thin.
I suspect this has been the issue for a number of boys I dated when I was younger. That it's been almost hard for themselves to accept they fancy someone who isn't a size Some women were told that their assets "don't count. I've definitely had at least one guy who was shit scared of introducing me to his friendship circle "because they're very judgemental about my girlfriends.
Constant fear of crushing my partner. Not feeling attractive enough to be seen with your partner. Over hearing the "you're with him? When I was bigger and before The Fit Londoner came about, a guy i was with for a bit told me guys didn't like me because I was chubby.
We even talked to a sexologist about it. Weight also pushed some people to break up. I was in a serious, committed relationship. After 2 years of sniping at me about my weight and realising I wasn't going give in and starve myself skinny they way they wanted his brother and mother manipulated him into breaking up with me.
Men giving me unsolicited nutrition and workout advice when I tell them I workout regularly. To them I'm just not doing it right and that's why I'm not a size 2. I was once asked specifically how much I weighed because if I was athletically big it would be ok.
Being chatted up in public and when I politely decline being called a fat slag and told that it was all a big joke to see if I was desperate enough to accept the request for a date. This was unfortunately not a one off! It's totally within your right to reject people and expect them to treat you respectfully, not insult and berate you. Some people even put in a disclaimer in their dating profiles.
Lmao I put a disclaimer on mine: I'm fat as you're reading this profile, I'm gonna be fat if you message me and I'm still gonna be fat if you wanna meet. But dudes are still shocked!! The dumbest thing a dude has ever said to me is that if I were 50lbs lighter I would be out of his league. People are trying to be Drake in the beginning, then change their minds real quick. Also my fave dichotomy: I like my girls bbw???????? When you don't blow them right away: