She took some time out from running her A-List Connections outfit to school on love at the top: How did you get started doing this? When was the moment that it clicked that this was what you wanted to do? Before moving to Columbus five years ago, I ran a millionaire matchmaking service in Cincinnati.
I always had an intuitive nature and natural skill set for connecting people, whether it was professional or personal. What are the unique aspects of dealing with A-list clients? Anonymity is a big one. My clients definitely value the fact that my service is confidential, customized, and offline. Are there more women that need this service than in years past?
Like men, women also value the importance of finding someone who not only matches their search criteria but also possess the ambition, awareness, and emotional connection they desire.
With the way online dating services have lowered the entry point cost-wise, does it make a service like yours make more sense? I personally meet, thoroughly vet, and hand-select each person I work with.
Have online dating services made it tougher to recruit clients or matches? Knowing that, I personally interview and assess everyone I work with, people know they are meeting a legitimate person who is a true potential match for them. Have online dating services created any bad habits for your daters? My clients find it comforting to know that working with me eliminates the fear of that first meeting. Are people getting too caught up in the instant gratification of Tinder dates, or perhaps the lack thereof?
Everyone measures success differently in the dating world. Some feel that meeting someone worthy of a second dates deems success, while success to someone else could mean exclusivity or marriage. Many also find that their lifestyle is not conducive to online dating as the time requirement can be equated to a part-time job.
You have years of experience giving dating advice. But, knowing what you want is essential. I advise my clients and my friends to make a list of exactly the qualities they want in a partner i.
This list should be very long, detailed and consist of positive characteristics. Singles who are open and receptive to learning and evolving within themselves will be successful in finding a partner. Over all the years of experience you have, how has dating changed, either in general, or how was your personal philosophy about it changed?
For the first time, there are more single adults than married adults in America. That, in and of itself, is redefining what it means to be single—not to mention the implications on our economy and society. Countless singles I have worked with have turned into dear friends. I hosted a huge singles event with the Columbus Blue Jackets last spring, and a couple I introduced who are now married came to the event together just to say hello.
Do you get invited to weddings? What is your romantic life like? Is that something you share with clients? I am a business professional, so I tend to keep my personal life private from my clients.
What are the specific challenges of dating in Columbus? You never want anyone to settle, but do you find some clients are just too picky? Specificity and knowing what you want is key, sure, but do people get in their own way by wanting too many boxes checked off? People can definitely be too picky and superficial. For the people who have seen Millionaire Matchmaker, in what ways does your service differ? First and foremost, I am not as brutal as Patti—that is all for television.
While I do ask tough-love questions and host mixers tailored to attract and identify select matches for my clients, what ultimately differentiates me is my methodology. I think the show loves to portray wealthy men as this stereotyped version of a guy who has everything—just not love. Is part of your goal to remove that stigma a little? For lack of a better term, I think some see the Type-A executive guy as a little douche-y or someone who only cares about material things…. This is real life, not television.
Part of the mutual fit I look for in a client relationship is authenticity. People hire financial advisors to manage their investments, realtors to sell their homes, personal trainers to become healthier, and so on.