LA, on the other hand, is one of the toughest. Your profile MUST contain a picture of you shirtless doing something awesome an activity like surfing, hiking, yoga etc , another pic of you hanging out with a few beautiful women, a pic of you wearing a nice suit, etc.
Cover all the bases. Keep the profile text short and to the point. Keep your messages short and to the point. You both lost 20 minutes, so what. This must be a place you know WELL: If you are a drinker as most New Yorkers are no worries, go ahead and get your buzz on.
What I mean by this is that you start posing a series of decisions, Decision A vs B, and with every decision, one of them gets her closer to your bedroom, the other further away. Set it up so that, with every decision, the one that gets you two closer to the bedroom is always the safer, better, most obvious option.
Get her back to your place, more drinks, keep talking, cuddle on the couch, escalate, you know the drill. With a transfer at Union Square?
Like, so she can see it in your actual checking account. Women in their late 30s, sometimes early 40s!! Why would you settle for less than the very best??
If not no worries, just shrug it off and move onto the next girl the rule is: Been here 2 years now and yeah, I can definitely say: Not impossible, but trickier for sure.
All very young, very cocky, never really met with failure in their lives. Back in NYC, it was much more about inner game: Lying just wasn't a thing. Remember, women really cannot tell the difference between fantasy and reality, between the appearance of a thing and the actual nature of that thing. I mean, he said it, so it must be true, right?
Why would he lie? Social Circle game my friends!! Really, really like her. NYC is the best place in North America for men right now when it comes to ease of hooking up. The ratio of single girls to guys in NYC is anywhere from 6 to 1 to up to 10 to 1, extremely advantageous for the guys.
LA, on the other hand: So fill your calendar with activities and get out of the house. You got her into bed on the first date, congrats!! Enjoy the ride while it lasts and when she ghosts you just shrug and go to the next girl. My own numbers for reference: Here in LA though: Of course there are a lot of variables in play: