Anonymous Should you dump him? Maybe he doesn't realize that your birthday is a big deal to you. I haven't celebrated my birthday or anyone's birthday since I was eight years old. If I know it's someone's birthday I'll probably write them a text saying happy birthday, but I wouldn't think it would be a big deal unless they told me what to expect on such given days.
The reason why is because they didn't do a damn thing on the day they were born. I don't celebrate my birthday, but I do buy my mom something since she actually brought me into this world.
Yes, I buy my mom, or treat my mom, to something on my birthday. I also don't celebrate Valentine's day. That's not romantic at all to me. To expect the person you're dating to give you something just because of what day it is, and this day had nothing to do with the two of you together as one.
When I have a girlfriend, I'll treat her on a random day the way most people treat their girl on Valentine's day. That is more romantic than treating them on the day they expect it! Same thing with birthdays. There's no connection between myself and the girl I'm dating on her birthday. It just happens to be the day she was born. Not a big deal to me. Now, if my girl told me that her birthday and therefore, by extension, mine and everyone else that she knows birthday is a big deal, then I'll plan accordingly, but if we just started dating and I knew it was her birthday but I didn't know that a birthday was a big deal, then I would probably just tell her happy birthday and that'd be it.
You didn't do anything extraordinary on the day of your birth? She's the one that did all the work. Did you buy your mom a gift on your birthday?
If not, he has every reason to not celebrate your birthday the same way you assuming you didn't do anything have every reason not to celebrate the day your mom gave birth to you.