Tweet The online dating world can open our eyes to could-be mates that we might not otherwise consider; of these could-bes, divorced men and women may offer a few unexpected comforts. Dating expert Brooke Lewis dishes on why she loves dating divorced men. As a single woman and dating expert, I have had a great deal of delightful experiences dating divorced men. Naturally, as we grow fabulously older, women are going to meet many more divorced men than we did in our 20s.
Men are, by nature, fixers and problem solvers. Whether repairing the kitchen table or planning a romantic evening, the male ego and inner child have a strong need and desire to get it right and succeed. Men often feel this need after a failed marriage and while entering into a new relationship. Well, ladies, guess who benefits from those lessons? I believe that marriage teaches men responsibility, structure, how to co-define reality, what women want and how to put someone else before themselves.
I have giggled to myself and so very much appreciated the little things that divorced men I have dated have done for me. They have taken out my garbage, carried my luggage, taken my car for an oil change, cooked me dinner, talked about my day at work and brought me breakfast in bed. They seem to naturally have more of a routine and offer to do things that a lot of men who have never been married would not think to do for another person.
I have dated many single year old men who are super set in their ways, while men who were married before seem to have a deeper understanding of taking care of a woman … in many ways. I openly share that I have chosen my career first and never wanted my own children. I have many single girlfriends who share this choice and many who chose marriage, had children and got divorced.
In my 20s, almost all of my relationships failed because I chose not to have children of my own. I understood and respected the fact that most men wanted children. As I have gotten older, I have loved dating divorced men with kids because it has taken the pressure off of me to have children with them.
I have also learned that men with kids love that much more deeply. I have completely fallen for a guy or two simply by watching him with his kids and the undying love and support he has provided them. I have felt this love carry over to me, as well. These men seem to love much more unconditionally.
For all you single Mom readers, I think dating divorced men with children is a huge plus. Men with kids will understand your schedule, lifestyle, priorities and responsibilities—because they will have a similar life experience.