Share Tweet Pin It Are you and your friend going after the same woman? Things are about to get awkward! Could such a creature really exist?
Your best friend feels the same way about her. This uncomfortable situation is one of those special cases that can happen at any age, during any part of your life. While this is more likely to happen during your high-school or college years, it can just as easily happen in your 30s, 40s, or 50s with a work colleague or mutual friend, with the same reaction at every stage: What should you do if your best friend likes a girl you also like?
If you feel like you should do the chivalrous thing and step aside to let your friend win the girl, you might be surprised to know that it may not be what the girl or your friend wants. So what should you do? Save the friendship or chase the girl? Should you consider backing out of the race for the woman in question, in order to save your friendship? As with any well-structured battle plan, there are always risks to consider when going up against a friend.
Going up against your friend in poker leads to bragging rights, but going up against your friend for a girl? That leads to heartbreak, and possibly the loss of a friend.
While it may sound juvenile for your friend to ditch out on your bromance just because of a girl, consider this: Odds are, if you and your buddy like the same girl, all parties involved will be well aware… But should you bring it up? Pull out that charming bravado that makes you so damn likable, and talk calmly with your friend about the situation — never be accusing or angry. For example — does the girl seem to favor one of you blatantly over the other after having made your intentions known?
If so, you can spare the awkward chit chat and simply stop pursing her — no harm, no foul! If you truly believe this girl could be someone special in your life — not just a gorgeous lay, then follow your heart and go for the girl. Just remember not to do so at the expense of your friend. No shots below the belt, no throwing him under the bus, and no spreading nasty rumors about his STD history, just to put her off. So instead of being a jerk about your bro, tell the girl you know he likes her too, and you feel terrible about hurting him, particularly if she is obviously leaning towards a romantic relationship with you over him.
Talking your friend down is likely going to make you look like a douchebag in this situation, and she might end up liking your friend even more. How to win her heart and impress her effortlessly ] 4 Let her decide. Just like men, women have this great and obvious way of showing their interest in the opposite sex. In the end, getting the girl has little to do with you and your friend, and everything to do with what she wants. Instead of arguing with him, simply take a step back and listen to what the girl wants.
The heart wants what it wants, and certainly finds a way to muddle clear thinking in situations like these. Whatever happens in the end, make sure you understand that friendships are important, and they should be cherished, rivalry or no rivalry.
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