Two women were prosecuted for receiving over one million dollars from people in these scams! Since starting the website in , I have received many emails from people who believe they are dating a soldier when, in most cases, they actually are not. If this article helps you or has kept you from becoming the victim of a scam or sending him even more money , please consider donating to help maintain this website so that others will be able to utilize this information as well. He is in a special operations unit and therefore cannot share any information with you.
My husband was special ops. When we would go out with a bunch of guys from his unit and people would ask what they did, they simply replied they were in the Army. If there were soldiers being denied leave after being overseas for years at a time, it would be ALL over the news. Now, we certainly do have troops in other countries. He says he is not allowed to talk about what he does, however, he has cleared it with his CO that he can tell you enough to make you believe he is who he says. This is followed by outrageous lies.
Then the supposed CO sends back a letter asking for money to connect a phone line or some other complete lie. Everyone Around Him is Dead 5. He says one of the following…. My favorite is when they combine all these things.
I know some very unlucky people but this is just over the top. And I mean if this was for real and that kind of luck follows him, why do you want to be with him?
He Has No Mailing Address 6. It also has nothing to do with a Western Union office. He Needs Money for Leave 7. This is absolutely false! The Army pays for all travel to and from a war zone. This includes emergency travel like the death of a loved one.
He says he can come home but you have to request his leave through an email address. There would be no one deployed. The Army does not allow leave requests from Army family members. He wants you to pay for a phone line, cell phone or calling card so you can talk to each other.
Real soldiers can call home for FREE. My husband deployed multiple times and we never paid for a single phone call. Not to mention, soldiers are making enough to buy a phone card if they really had to. This usually also includes stories about being a higher ranking officer. Real officers have even LESS time to be online talking to strangers over the internet. He has a child that is dying or needs surgery or some other medical emergency and he needs the money to pay for it. All military dependents are covered by Tricare, which for the most part is amazing insurance.
I had a c-section and was in the hospital in a private room for three days. Know how much I paid? Wow, talk about a quick advancement! So why exactly would he need money from you? His Pay is Deposited in the U. Second, you can have access to your money, so this is yet another lie.
So why does he need it? The absolute best way to verify is with 2 — ask him to email you from his Army email address. Ask him to give you his Army email address rather than his yahoo, hotmail, etc. This will be his firstname. All soldiers have an Army email account. Many have been provided pictures, copies of military identification cards, even videos.
Some of these scumbags are using the pictures of soldiers who were killed in action to run their scams. Someone told me once they were dating a General and she even had pictures. I told her to send them to me. Guess who the pictures were of? Real military ID pictures basically look like a mugshot — solid background with him in uniform and basically only showing his face maybe the very top of his shoulders.
Someone sent me one the other day that not only looked nothing like a military ID more like a business card for a recruiter , it had a picture of a soldier who was obviously at a military ball or some other formal event as he had a bow tie with his dress uniform. So exactly which one are you dating? They are too busy doing their JOB. Continuing to talk to their loved one that they knew before deployment?
Time to peruse dating sites and chat for hours? But he said he loves you and wants to marry you…. Go downtown in a military town to a club one night and let me know how many single soldiers are there looking for the love of their life…. So the point would be??? Does this sound feasible to you? But you asked him if he was a scammer and he said no!
Come on, think about this! Why would he admit it to you? He may get pretty far into his story before he asks. Then all of the sudden disaster strikes and he needs three grand to be able to come home. And what do they do? Keep asking me more questions — but he does this or he said this or he sent me these pictures. The answer is still the same. Go back and read the first line in bold at the top of this article. The Scam Checklist So let me sum this up: