Are you actually dating? Or are you just casually hooking up? How are you supposed to know for sure?! Well, besides flat out asking which is obviously the best way to figure it out , there are some signs you can look out for. A guy isn't going to waste his time having conversations with you if he doesn't care about you. I can always tell my brother is serious about a girl when he starts having hour-long conversations with her on the phone. And I personally knew things were getting real with my boyfriend and I when I felt comfortable calling him rather than always sending texts.
But a lot of guys will wait to make a move when they really like a girl, because they want to show her how serious they are about the whole thing. If you're dating, your relationship isn't all about hooking up - it's also about hanging out and getting to know each other, going places in public and just generally bonding.
And he'll make sure of that. ShutterStock He's Brought You Around His Friends If your guy brings you around his friends after a few dates, that's an indication that things are more serious than just casually hanging out. I always know when my guy friends are legit dating a girl because when they are, they start bringing her around and introducing her to everyone. When I first met my boyfriend, he was super excited to introduce me to his friends on our third date.
If the guy doesn't seem like he wants you to hang out with him and his buddies, or even meet them, that could mean it's because he only sees your fling as totally casual. Whether he's saying a random girl is hot or blatantly talking about hanging out with other ladies, it's not a good sign.
See what I mean? If he just calls you at 9 PM and asks if you want to come over to watch a movie, then immediately tries to get in your pants? He only wants things to be casual.
If he plans a date with you a few days in advance to go see a movie or get something to eat, he wants to date you. ShutterStock You've Met His Family Members If he's introduced you to his parents and siblings, that's almost a guarantee that you're dating - especially if you've had dinner with them or something like that. No guy, or girl, is going to introduce a random hookup to their family with any kind of importance.
And it doesn't count if it's just him pulling you through the living room saying, "Mom this is Jess, Jess mom, bye. A guy isn't going to go out in public and hug and kiss and act cute with a girl he only sees as a hookup. If he reaches to hold your hand while you're walking or kisses you in front of everyone, that's a pretty good sign that he's dating you.
If you've had at leas tone day date, where you've hung out when the sun is still shining Day dates are pretty legit. Yeah, a random hookup might spill on his life story after a steamy sex session, but if a dude is voluntarily talking to you about this stuff a lot, not only after hooking up, it means he's trying to bond and make a deeper connection.
What other signs are there? Tell me in the comments.