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It was great advice, tailored for a young woman who was I am a woman who just turned Though I am not particularly prudish, I have been working under the assumption that even with the best birth control, scientifically speaking, a baby is a possible by-product of sex. My mother raised my sister and me as a single woman with a lot of love but not much financial stability. I understand all too well the struggles that single mothers and their children face. Although I am not religious and am very liberal, I am politically pro-choice but personally pro-life.
Lately, I have been going out on an insane number of dates and really enjoying myself. Do you think that is true? How do you suggest maneuvering this topic now that I feel ready to have sex? A simple google search on this topic does not yield any results that fit my situation. Do you want to… you know? Ah, yeah, sure… I just want you to know something beforehand. Which is a good thing — stopping yourself from sleeping with a jerk.
Well, except, you know, for that one thing. I am going to be fine. But, you are at a good place in life, actively dating, and are now okay with the idea of meeting a decent man and possibly having a baby. Your sexual past is really none of his business in this situation. If you do feel compelled to discuss your experience and feelings on your first time, go to your girlfriends.
You seem to want your life absolutely sorted out before you act, never risking an unwanted outcome. But to find love or sex , you have to make yourself vulnerable and take a chance, because the other person will be taking a chance on you. Fear of pregnancy is really not a convincing reason not to have sex.
Birth control works pretty well. Use two kinds if you like. If, OMG, you did get pregnant, well, people like your mom occasionally survive this and raise some awesome kids.
But if you want to nail down your entire future life plan as a pre-condition of getting some, even the most honorable guy might not make that deal. Especially in that moment. Get some condoms and go for it already. Then order some Chinese food. This statement, in particular, raised a tiny little red flag in my mind: