May 4, at 3: Often it is because of an emotionally distructive childhood e. Vijay November 11, at 2: I say the truth here.
In short, independence is never allowed to grow and is nipped in the bud because it becomes a danger to manipulative people.
I grew up that way and always treated girls with respect. If I see a girl closely hugging another guy, my inference will automatically be that she and he love each other.
Everyone knows that boys cannot be friends with girls without wanting them. They end up as the nice guys and cry their hearts out. It hurts a lot when nice guys are called insecure. They are only trying to apply the rules that were thrust on them even without them realizing that, on the girls they love.
Their so called friends are usually exploitative guys who get their work done by these nice guys. I swear to God on one thing. The day a nice man discovers the above truth, he will be baddest ass in the world. I pray to God to give all nice guys in this world that strength and realization and help them lead their lives in a fulfilling manner. If she really has any brains and a loving heart, she will stay with you and understand and appreciate your goodness.
May God give all us nice guys strength and protection. And my atheistic nice guy brothers, may you find this by yourself and soon! Vera January 19, at 5: After reading the article, I recognized him right away. Never any trust, always jealous, nothing was ever his fault.
He was very affectionate, understanding and attentive to my needs. He was a fantastic lover. He was generous when he wanted to be. On my part, I am very independent, outgoing, have friends, hobbies and interests, traveled a lot, was attractive to males. This just drove him crazy! He was so crazy jealous that he deliberately did things to humiliate and hurt me, kept dating other women, did horrendously disrespectful things to me.
Towards the end he really became unhinged, and decided to be with another woman who made him more secure. To this day he still wants to be with me, calls me, wants to do things for me, but only to have access to my knowledge, connections and expertise. Finally, I see the trap. His life is becoming unhinged, he is in a financial downspin, about to lose everything he has, probably going to jail, is an alcoholic and a pothead, and of course cheaters are liars and liars cannot be trusted.
I realized finally that I would never be free to pursue a man who respects me, desires and trusts me in a way that is healthy and brings both of us happiness. I believe we can all b a little insecure if we se ou bf or gf speaking to another person that we feel are attractive.
I think if u are in a relationship, you should both behave accordingly and with respect of one anothers feelings. If the person u r with calls themselves a socialite and are not respectfull or mindfull of hanging out, having friends, speaking to people of the opposite gender, then you need to watch out. I havev dated very beautifull, yet slutty women and have noriced even they would have insecurity issues and even tended to criticize other slutty behaving women, when they were around me or even on tv.
Its a matter of respect.. While I recognize some of these things theyve also been brought on by her misposting to men she voluntarily promised to swear off months earlier due to them pursuing her, during an intimate conversation. Nude photos of other men on her phone she attempted to hide, and being left for an hour during the start of a dance her man travelled mi to attend with her.
The feelings may ultimately end up insecure, but not without reason. Are we simply broken men or have inconsiderate and unappreciative women pushed so many of us here? Watever February 25, at How many men did this author date to know so much about HALF of the men she dated? Not to mention you can MAKE other ppl insecure by your actions.
If you are always doing things like flirting and never spending time with your Spouse or partner, chances are YOU are contributing to the bad feelings. This is why I find dating pointless unless both people involve love each other and respect boundaries. He had everything that met my requirements for dating, and I enjoyed him so much. My guy just had about a heart attack! So I changed my phone number, because he had so many qualities that I wanted that I was willing to show him that I was committed.
However, me changing my number wasnt enough for him. He said that he wanted space! He told me how he feels very strong about me and how he wants to make me his. He introduced me as his girlfriend and talked about how we should introduce our children soon, yet he was willing to walk away very fast bc he freaked out.
I realize now that it was for the best, because I found myself working very hard to please him. I started to get paranoid that he was upset. His behavior became irrational and unpredictable, and it was all drive by fear. Which is so disappointing because he really does have so much going for him!! I have compassion for him now, rather than feeling hurt. Bond March 6, at 6: Being bullied all the time. I guess this is one big reason for insecurities in a man. I have a girlfriend, Although I am never Jealous of her talking to a male friend, until I know that person is a real bad guy.
But lot of traits here matches a lot to what I was in my initial stages. I soon realized that my behavior and overly nice attitude is hurting her and then I changed. Yes, Now we have equal relationship. Give her enough chance too Bettabelieveit April 9, at 1: We just broke up…..
He questions everything that I do. It breaks my heart. He takes things out of my past that has happened years ago and uses that to justify how he treats me. He talks to his ex and other women of his past and always makes it seem like its no big deal. But he accuses me of everything….. I love my stepdad like my own father…. It has slowly drained me. My heart is broke tonight.
Anna April 12, at 3: But I would never manipulate a significant other like this article describes. Dismissing all insecure men as manipulative and not worth dating is really unfair.
Insecurity is a problem in relationships, but not every insecure man is going to act like this.