Dating Advice For Introverts First of all, what is an introvert? Introversion and extroversion are some of the least properly understood terms in psychology. People assume it means whether or not you like to be around people. This is overly simplistic and simply not true. Introverts recharge when they are by themselves, and prefer less external stimulation. Extroverts recharge by being around others and prefer more external stimulation.
So are you an introvert? More than likely, you are introverted, to some extent. In western society, we live in a very extrovert-biased world. That is to say, people are rewarded on their sociability and ability to appear extroverted and boisterous. Many introverts feel steam-rolled in this culture and have lost touch with their inherent introverted strengths.
Rapport Building Introverts are master rapport builders in all kinds of relationships. This is simply not true. Introverts actually have a greater need for intimacy and depth in their relationships than their extroverted counterparts.
They would much rather have a smaller social circle with greater understanding and connection with each person than have a large group of acquaintances with less emotional intimacy. Studies have shown that introverts outperform extroverts in high-ticket sales positions because they are wired to be able to nurture longer lasting relationships with more depth and patience It is this exact trait that allows introverts to gain quick and thorough connection with people that they have just met.
Ability To Listen Few things turn women off more than going on a date with a guy that can only talk about himself. Introverts are world-class listeners. They communicate with their conversational partners like laser beams — seeing into the soul of the speaker with intuition and clarity. Watch a small group of introverts communicating with each other and everyone is heard equally and people are very rarely interrupted in the slightest.
Thoughtfulness And Caring Introverts are more introspective and self-aware than most extroverts. It is often said that the world is made up of people who think, and people who do introverts and extroverts respectively.
The world needs both people who take action and people who are thoughtful… it keeps the world in balance. To draw an analogy, think of how one shoots an arrow from a bow. If the world were only made up of introverts, the arrow would be cocked and ready to be fired, but the shooter would always be recalibrating and aiming the arrow before it ever took flight.
If the world were only extroverts, the arrows would be flying every which way but never hitting any targets. It would be absolute chaos. Thus, the world needs those who can aim, and those who can let go. Self-Reflectiveness And Error-Correction Another common strength among introverts is the fact that they are self-reflective and are magnificent at error correcting. From all the time introverts spend doing their internal homework, they are brilliantly adept at continually making sure that they are align with themselves and living from a congruent place.
They value things like thoughtfulness, moral integrity, and empathy over extroverted traits like charisma, or being seen as fascinating, or socially dominant. So how does error-correction help you in your relationship management? Introverts have a much easier time self-reflecting, realizing what they did wrong, and admitting to it openly.
Breadth This is one of the biggest points in this list and could just as easily be the 1 point. Introverts prefer depth of connection in their social and intimate lives, where extroverts are more drawn towards breadth of connections.
I personally know many introverts who are passionately loyal friends to about three to five people in their lives. Whether you are serial-dating to try to find a partner, or already have one, being predisposed to building deep connections with others will help you in all of your intimate relationships for the rest of your life.
Recharge Regardless of whether you consider yourself primarily introverted or not, everyone has at least some part of them that cherishes their alone time. If you find yourself craving some down time away from your social life or intimate relationship, have no fear. In modern society, many people associate introversion with shyness or social awkwardness.
Many introverts love socializing, and many extroverts love to read a book by themselves on their Friday night in. Whatever your mix, make sure you have patience with yourself, and listen to what your mind needs. In this life, for you to self-actualize and become your truest self , you will need to both think, and take action. Want to encourage even more depth in your relationship?