But it should help first-time travellers navigate the waters. I'm fairly good looking. Well, in the face at least. Body is average I'm working on it. In the long run this has actually turned out to be a disadvantage because it diminished the incentive to learn how to talk to women Point is, even if you have no game whatsoever, if you're not hideous you will still be able to sleep with 5s, 6s, and a handful of 7s.
I'm speaking from experience. This is not the case in Canada or the United States, where women are colder and competition is fiercer.
In such instances all you have to do is apply "don't fuck it up" game and you should be able to take them home. If not that night, certainly after a date or two. Although this sounds great, if you rely on this game plan you'll never get a quality woman. You must work for that. Even worse, if you let a girl latch on to you as soon as you get to the club, you'll cock block yourself. As someone who wasn't used to this kind of attention, I routinely fell into this trap when I began travelling Latin America.
I missed out on many better opportunities because of it. But certainly just as difficult. If you travel to Latin America and want to meet women, you must be realistic. If you go to Colombia for the first time, don't expect Shakiras and Sofia Vergaras to be throwing themselves at a gringo in khaki shorts who can't speak Spanish. If you opt for Mexico, don't expect to be nailing Salma Hayek or Stephanie Sigman against the headboard of your hostel bunk. It's not going to happen.
Things in Latin America are no different than back home in this sense: Your exotic status as a foreigner means absolutely nothing to a girl that can have her choice of the social elite in her home country. By and large, the highest quality girls I've slept with in Mexico and South America were thanks to social circles.
Rarely do I take home something truly spectacular while flying solo at the bar. Latin America - for better or worse - is a superficial place. How you look matters, as does the company you keep. Luckily, this is something that you can use to your advantage. That accompanied with your foreigner status gives you a massive advantage just by showing up. Social proof is also incredibly important when it comes to meeting women in Latin America. It's a way of vetting a guy to see if he's cool, trustworthy etc.
I understand that you won't have a social circle upon arriving in a city, but it's important to develop one if you plan to stay awhile. Ideally, you'll meet some locals who can introduce you to their friends, but a group of socially adept foreigners can serve you just as well in a bar or club setting.
Who you show up with to a bar or a club in Latin America can make or break your night. I learned this the hard way when a couple of friends came to visit. They didn't pack any nice threads, so one came to the bar with shorts and flip flops and the other with a wrinkly Under Armour shirt and jeans two sizes too big. Girls wanted nothing to do with us. Since girls in Latin America are used to guys approaching them aggressively in bars and clubs, a more relaxed approach can actually work in your favour.
However, if you want to keep a girl around for more than a few dates, you're going to have to take the lead. The higher value the girl is, the truer this becomes. The stereotype of girls being clingy in Latin America is valid only to a certain extent. For example, a gringo chaser with few local options will be hard to shake, no matter how you treat her. But a more attractive girl with many options and who isn't impressed simply by your foreigner status will have no problem kicking you to the curb if you're too passive.
This can be a difficult adjustment for guys used to dominant American women. But remember, this is a different culture. Adapt or get left behind. I'll admit, I'm a bit biased bitter? I've yet to meet a girl that can cook here. I'm sure that if I shacked up with a little Mayan from Oaxaca or Chiapas this would change, but I'm not sure if the juice is worth the squeeze. Admittedly, this becomes less of a problem as you head further south - it's more common for a Colombian or Peruvian to offer to cook for you and have it not be absolute shit.
Also, don't expect all women to be dressed to the nines. Of course this will vary by country, city and venue - there are still plenty of girls in Latin America who won't leave the house without looking exceptional. Just remember that this won't be everyone. Suffice to say that if your not good at spotting a liar and wear your heart on your sleeve, Latin women WILL take advantage of you. This make dating in Latin America a drag at times.
I used to think "I can get laid without dancing, so why bother to learn? First of all, it depends on the country. In Mexico, you can get by without dancing or dancing very poorly. This is because there are many top oriented venues that never play Salsa music. It's also because Mexicans - relative to the rest of Latin America - aren't very good dancers. Looking back on it now, I've missed out on a number of opportunities with women because of my refusal or inability to dance.
Who knows for sure. Another reason is that many women think that a man's ability to dance is linked to his sexual prowess. Judging by what Latinas have said about how horrible local guys are in bed, I can't see this belief holding much weight. But, again, it's irrelevant. If they believe it, they believe it. So, although you can get laid in Latin America without knowing how to dance I'm living proof , you'll open yourself up to a world of new opportunities just by learning the basic steps of Salsa or Cumbia.
And there you have it. If your a first time visitor to Latin America, these 7 truths should help you know what to expect in terms of dating and hooking-up. Remember not to overthink it: