Or do you leave it to be revealed on the night? And how do you handle those nerves? Dating and sex are a huge part of life. And they can be really vulnerable places! But we want to show that you can go out there sober er with confidence. The Benefits of Dating without Alcohol The idea of going out on a date without the comforting blanket of alcohol to boost your confidence can seem intimidating. In fact, in a survey by Match. Sure, you want to make the best possible impression, but you also want to make accurate judgements about your date as well.
Drinking too much alcohol does affect that. Likewise, you may think that the drunk you is confident and charming but really, the drunk you is just… drunk. It is ok to be a little nervous on a first date. What about the Sex? In any scenario, having sex with someone new can be scary — sober or not.
On a purely physical level, alcohol screws with your sexual function. Or ending up with an STD. On the whole it might be worth dealing with a little awkwardness. And, believe me, no one is going to scream at the sight of your naked body. If they are getting into bed with you they are already attracted to you.
Part of being sober is learning to deal with a little discomfort — and what better practice than sober dating? If you really do just want to sit and chat for a couple of hours, meet for coffee, tea or hot chocolate. Club Soda expert Harriet recently went on a coffee date on a Thursday morning! So you see, nothing says that you have to stick to the post-work scenario.
Go to a museum or an art gallery, watch a movie. Something to get the conversation rolling. It also means that if you already know that your date is going nowhere, you can bail out after the interesting activity. If you do need an evening date, explore bars that have a great range of mocktails. This article from the Independent lists bars in London that have some mouthwatering looking mocktails that would turn a drinker green with envy.
If it goes badly at least you get jam out of it Picnic in a park. Afternoon tea — they are available without the champagne too Stargazing observatory — pick the night of a meteor shower or book a trip to the Royal Observatory Salsa — or line dancing or celidh, or your choice of dance venue.
Boats — hire a rowing boat and set to the water. Coming out as sober er A thing that often comes up in the Club Soda community is how forthcoming you have to be about your choice not to drink alcohol or to drink less than most? On the one hand, do you announce it as part of your online dating profile in order to weed out those who would just not be accepting of that?
Or do you want until you meet on your first date? All of these activities should get you in a positive frame of mind for the date ahead. When you get home at the end of the night, try and think of three positive things you learnt from the date. Even if it was terrible, you might have learnt to never got to that restaurant again, that you can get through 4 hours sober, or that you have a fantastic funny sober dating story to share with your friends.
A bad date is not the end of the world, but a learning experience to help you for the next better date. All the funds from these sales go straight back into making Club Soda better for its growing community.