Spread the love This week I had the pleasure of getting out of my office and away from the writing desk to dispense my wisdom on television. Denver 9News reporter Melissa Blasius contacted me to help her develop a story about online dating scams.
Here is the video if you want to check it out! These people are everywhere, infiltrating online dating sites and other social media sites such as Facebook. Online dating scammers will go after anyone, male or female. They also target people who are divorced, widowed, or single parents… people who may be lonely and vulnerable to the affections of an attractive stranger.
Long distance relationships are hard enough when someone lives in the next state over… developing a romance with someone 10 time zones away is pretty unrealistic. Online scammers will flatter the shit out of you. They will try to make you feel valued. They may also appeal to your ego: The pics are usually fake, stolen off the internet see Resources below.
Online scammers will start talking in romantic or sexual ways very quickly, even dropping the L word. Because so many scammers are from other countries Nigeria is a common one , their grasp of our language is weak. And, last but never least, the telltale sign of a scammer is when they ask for money. The number can be big or small. Ever look through your messages on Facebook? On Facebook, I accept friend requests from strangers because of the nature of my business; but every now and again I get a request from a guy who has no friends and few to no posts.
The photos are usually fake and stolen from someone else on Facebook. Melissa, the reporter who interviewed me, purposely developed a month-long online relationship from a guy who found her on Facebook. Sure enough, he was a nice looking man with a very Anglo-American name. His English was pitiful. He wrote her day and night, asked her what she did for a living, if she were married she is!
He told her nice things. He probed her for more information. She Google searched his photo and, sure enough, it belonged to some other guy on Facebook, a guy whose Middle Eastern name matched his Mediterranean look. And sure enough, he eventually asked her for money. In summary, if a stranger contacts you on an online dating site, on social media, or anywhere else, and displays the above signs — or any other sign you find odd — do your research.
Run it by other people. Do some Google searches. And be sure to check out the resources below: Resources Good website for romance scams help and resources: