I am aware that some shows are available on the internet, but I rarely have the time, the interest, or the motivation to watch them. Most of my television viewing occurs in airports or on airplanes, where I do spend considerable time, and occasionally I visit a friend who is a TV watcher and end up on the couch in front of the TV.
None of those conversations ever led to a show getting on the air so far as I know, although a few pilots were shot and at least one contract signed. Married and Dating airing on Showtime after all these years. And I do have a bit to do with the existence of theSan Diego community in particular and the national and global polyamory communities in general.
Married and Dating is a far better portrayal of polyamory than I feared and not so good as I had hoped, judging from the first episode, which aired July For those who missed it, a brief recap. The show flips back and forth between two poly families, one in Riverside,California and one in San Diego.
TheSan Diego group, which consists of two young and attractive 30something couples who we meet in the midst of their decision to move in together, are clearly entrenched in the New Age camp. Both families struggle a bit with jealousy and inclusion, both families are happy to jump into bed, cameras and all, and both families feature strongly bisexual women. Contrary to what most people might anticipate, jealousy arises in the MFF triad when one of the women the legal wife lets it be known that she has a new male love interest.
At any rate, Michael and Kamala are both good enough actors to make it look real, but more about that later. Since poly-identified people are still a tiny minority, this show badly needs the Jen character to provide someone the rest of the world can relate to in the midst of all these hedonists. In my opinion, Polyamory: Married and Dating succeeds brilliantly at introducing seven main characters in less than thirty minutes.
But then, this is the bonobo tribe. Hot group sex among beautiful, young people is certainly a proven formula for success. They did a really fabulous job of capturing the essence of the workshop on film, except for inserting footage of two triads making love for the cameras and making it look like it was part of the workshop instead of the extracurricular activity that it was. This little bit may have been responsible for fifteen years of popularity, but I prefer to think it was the multi-dimensional and transformational experiences of the participants that television viewers have found so intriguing over the years.
Whether or not this is true, I have no idea, and neither does anyone else. What we do know is that more and more people are choosing to remain single, and more and more people are becoming aware of the value of community and tribe in their lives. And many of these people also have ongoing, non-monogamous relationships.
Married and Dating is a really great start.