Ruling on taking boyfriends or girlfriends I am deeply in love with a Muslim man and want to marry him. I know that Allah forbids girlfriend-boyfriend relationships, and feel very sorry in my heart for our relationship. I feel that because we have been in this relationship which is abhorred by Allah, he will never marry me because he has lost respect for me. What does the Quaran say about this? Allaah says interpretation of the meaning: The food of the People of the Scripture Jews and Christians is lawful to you and yours is lawful to them.
Lawful to you in marriage are chaste women from the believers and chaste women from those who were given the Scripture Jews and Christians before your time, when you have given their due mahr bridal money given by the husband to the wife at the time of marriage , desiring chastity i.
And whosoever disbelieves in the Oneness of Allaah and in all the other Articles of Faith, the fruitless is his work, and in the Hereafter he will be among the losers. Just as Allaah imposed the condition of chastity on women, meaning that they refrain from zinaa, so it is also imposed on men. The man must also be pure and chaste. So they should be ghayr musaafiheen, meaning they should not be adulterers who do not refrain from sin and do not refuse any who come to them for immoral purposes.
The one with many lovers or the one with just one lover are both the same. For this reason Imaam Ahmad ibn Hanbal may Allaah have mercy on him said that it is not right to marry a promiscuous woman unless she has repented, or to arrange a marriage of such a woman to a chaste man, so long as she is still conducting herself in this manner.
Similarly, he Ahmad says that it is not right for a promiscuous man to marry a chaste woman unless he repents and gives up his immoral conduct, because of this aayah… We will discuss this matter in further detail after quoting the aayah interpretation of the meaning: Marthad had promised to take one of the prisoners from Makkah to Madeenah.
When she reached me, she recognized me and said: Stay with us tonight. Then the Messenger of Allaah peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him said: A man passed by her, or she passed by him, and he touched her. A word connoting a rebuke or denunciation. Allaah has done away with shirk and had brought Islam. He came to the Prophet peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him and told him what had happened. The Prophet peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him said: When Allaah, may He be blessed and exalted, wishes good for His slave, He hastens the punishment for his sin, so that it is dealt with before the Day of Resurrection.
These aayaat and ahaadeeth clearly indicate that it is haraam forbidden for men to have any kind of friendship or relationship with non-mahram women women to whom they are not closely-related and to whom they could get married. The evil consequences and misery caused by such relationships are obvious to anyone who observes real life. A similar question has been asked under We ask Allaah to keep us far away from that which is forbidden, to protect us from all that may earn His wrath and to keep us safe from a painful punishment.
May Allaah bless our Prophet Muhammad.