On the one hand, if you trust your partner implicitly then you may be blind to the signs that you are being cheated on. On the other hand, trust is an essential ingredient of a healthy relationship, and if you accuse your partner of cheating when they are not doing so then you may inadvertently end the relationship by making such an offensive claim.
It is becoming increasingly difficult to get straight answers: When someone is cheating on their partner, it can quickly become difficult for them to keep track of all the lies and half-truths. If you find that your other half is evasive and defensive when you ask simple or fair questions about where they have been, what they plan to do today or whether they had a good night out, this is a warning sign that they may be seeing someone else.
Slow or awkward responses may indicate scrambling to make up a suitable story, while irritable responses may indicate feelings of guilt. Your partner is treating you as though you are always in the wrong: People who cheat are seldom remorseless and can be highly confused about their own motivations. As a result, the guilt and other conflicting emotions can sometimes lead them to make desperate attempts to justify the fact they are betraying someone who trusts them.
It is particularly common for cheating partners to convince themselves that their drive or need to cheat was caused by serious flaws in their primary partner, and this belief can manifest itself in criticizing, nagging and starting arguments at home.
Firstly, it is important to remember that there will often be perfectly innocent reasons for spending more time at work. Perhaps a deadline is approaching, or your partner has been asked to take on extra work because someone else is ill. However, if your partner has been spending longer hours at work or going into work at particularly unusual times for a long while and has not explained this to your satisfaction, there is reason to suspect that they may be seeing someone else.
You notice other new habits that are hard to explain: When someone is trying to keep track of two relationships and one is clandestine, the easiest and least noticeable way to schedule secret meetings and stay in touch is to use email or text messaging. If you have an honest and open dynamic with your partner, it should be acceptable to ask to use their phone or computer if you need to.
If your partner appears to panic or becomes outwardly hostile when you want to use one of their personal devices, this is a warning sign that they feel guilty about something that you could see on that device. You should be especially concerned if your partner used to be more flexible and gracious about sharing property. There are unexplained and negative changes in your sex life: It is perfectly normal and healthy for couples to be less interested in having sex at certain times.
However, you may start to wonder whether someone else is in the picture if your partner is the one avoiding sex and if you cannot understand why. It may be the case that they are embarrassed about a medical problem. However, if there is no evidence of this then you should be suspicious of any attempts to offer lame or insincere excuses that are offered as reasons why you should not sleep together.
You should also be concerned if your partner seems distracted, bored or dispassionate when you have sex.