Are you wondering if the red flags are BIG enough reasons to break up? Are your friends and family concerned about the relationship?
If you answered yes to any of these questions, then this post is for you. This could be the Holy Spirit leading you to break up. Today Sam Eaton will share 10 signs that you may be dating the wrong person. Share your thoughts and dating experiences in the comment section below! Our alarmingly sudden spark ignited as we collided at a drinking fountain outside a roaring great wedding reception.
Before I knew it our lives were entangled as we spent almost every day together checking out hipster dive bars with the best french fries in town and sipping homemade root beer while cheering on pig races.
Over the last five years, my perspective on dating has been completely turned upside down. Of course God cares! About two months after becoming official, I had a sudden moment of confusion and clarity. This girl was totally wrong for me and we wanted entirely different things in life. Yet, no part of me wanted to let her go.
She had become the center of my world and my big head had fallen for her over my clumsy heels. All these years later, I can see so many warning signs that I completely ignored. I just wish someone had been around to point them out to me. So, in hopes of being that friend for you, here are: Trust the Godly people who have known you the longest — your family, your friends, your mentors especially those who are older than you.
They have way more life experience to see things you cannot. Often God speaks to us through these people: Most of us have experienced this story: The right person should be encouraging you to strengthen, not neglect, the most important relationships in your life.
A little hand holding never hurt anyone, but constant touching in public is often a sign of insecurity. Check out the benefits of boundaries in dating. They are distracting your relationship with God. The right relationship should encourage your personal relationship with God, not distract from it. This should always be our focus: The second is this: There is no commandment greater than these. I wanted to believe that the big issues in our relationship were a problem for future Sam to worry about.
Loving these people is an essential part of loving you. Are they making good decisions regardless of yours or are they treading water just to be with you? They should be working towards a better tomorrow whether you are a part of that or not. Whoever you are with for the long haul should be making your dreams bigger, not smaller and closer, not farther away. You find yourself making excuses to yourself and others about their actions. Whatever the warning sign, you always have an answer ready to let them off the hook instead of confronting the real issues.
The truth is, even now, I still miss that crazy girl sometimes. I could have sat around drinking in her hilarious punch lines and free-spirit for many years. Be smart about who you are investing your future in and with whom you are spending your time.
Check in with people who love you throughout this journey to talk about what they see and how you feel. Put some safeguards in place to protect your heart and to make sure your dating relationship is honoring God. And that, my friends, more than anything, is worth the wait. Do you agree with these warning signs? What would you add to this list? Join the conversation in the comment section below! Sam Eaton writes at RecklesslyAlive. You can friend him on twitter aliverecklessly.