At the same time, I have to admit that I have not dated Israeli girls, I have only dated Jewish girls living in the Diaspora i.
I DO have a bunch of Israeli friends though both guys and girls , and so I have a very good idea of what they are like. Israeli girls are more direct and straightforward than other Jewish girls and maybe a little more mature and grounded. Other Jewish girls may hide what they are thinking a bit more. My advice and tips below apply to both Israeli girls and non-Israeli Jewish girls.
If you live outside Israel you have to search a lot more as Jews are obviously much less common. Here are two of the best ways to meet Jewish girls when living outside Israel: Online Dating You can definitely meet Jewish girls online actually you can meet Israeli girls online too. There are two main options here for online dating sites. The first option is getting yourself on a Jewish-only dating site.
The advantage of a site like this is that almost every member is Jewish, and they allow you to see more detailed Jewish info, such as what type of Judaism they practice Reform, Conservative, Traditional, Orthodox, etc. And that is what makes JDate a great site — you can browse and find many Jewish girls there from across the country and even halfway around the world! You can create a profile on JDate for free, but you cannot message anyone until you get a paid membership.
Also if someone who has a paid membership messages you, you are notified about that but cannot read that email you have to pay for a membership first to read the email itself. The only way you can chat with a paid member when you have a free membership is if they IM Instant Message you while you are actually on the site, which can sometimes happen but usually not too often. Another Jewish dating site I used was Supertova.
There are much less members there than on JDate, but it is well built and easy to use. General Dating Sites There are also a number of dating sites around which are not specifically for Jews but that have many Jews on them you can see who is Jewish in their profile. Another advantage is that they also give you a better idea of what members of the opposite sex in your area are like, what their interests are and what they are looking for in their partner from someone like you!
A screenshot of OKCupid showing some of the matching questions and answers used on the site. Some require memberships, many have free trials you can make use of to see what the site is like.
Here are some tips regarding online dating in general: Make sure your profile pictures look great! If possible, get a pro photographer to shoot some great headshots of you and use some of these for your profile.
You do want to look as attractive as possible, right? My profile pictures on JDate the main picture and one other picture were professionally shot b. Oftentimes people have started a relationship with someone and just forgot to remove their profiles from the dating site. Other times they may have some life event happening at that exact moment in their life which puts them off dating at all, such as an exam, a busy period at work, a vacation, etc.
There are many out there. You will find someone. Just start communicating and you will eventually find someone you really click with. Jewish Social Events Jewish social events are a great way to meet Jewish girls! Examples of events like this are group Shabbat dinners, events celebrating the various Jewish holidays and parties Purim and Chanukkah parties are usually great. To find Jewish social events, first make sure you are part of or in some way connected to Jewish groups sounds obvious but some people forget this step.
Sometimes this can be after a shul service a casual young professionals area or an event on its own at a club or bar. Another idea is even to go on a Jewish singles trip yes, these exist! In this case you go away on vacation with a bunch of other single Jews — pretty cool right? A Moishe House West LA event visiting the Getty museum A final note is that I have personally always had more success with girls when I have met them in person first — not with online dating.
In my case it just seemed to always work out better. So of the two options above, I would recommend to do both but give extra priority to meeting Jewish girls in person at social events.
So what are you waiting for - start your mingling! The first is to know what they are looking for in a guy very important. The second is a good balance of communication. The third is a balance of give and take in the relationship. And the fourth is moving forward and making a commitment. So, what are Jewish girls looking for in a guy? Most are not looking for one-night stands. So if you are looking for this, you may struggle to find a match. It only lasts one night.
Aim for a real relationship. Along with this, Jewish girls are looking at marriage and children down the line. You should be in the position where you can easily give of yourself to another person and do not commonly harbor feelings of resentment, anger, anxiety, etc. You should generally be treating others well and not be afraid that you might hurt another person. You should be upbeat and confident in yourself and happy with your life and wanting to share it with another and support another person mentally, spiritually and romantically.
Jewish girls want a guy who is stable financially. The only exception to this are more artistic or free-thinking Jewish girls who may value this less and value the independence and free-thinking-ness aspect more. Also along with the above, they generally want a guy who is well educated, as well-educated individuals have a greater chance of making good money and being successful. Jewish girls want a guy who will be their best friend.
Someone they can rely on and really talk to. Aim to get to know a girl when dating and be that best friend this will build attraction that will last. Be a good communicator — that means not just a good talker but also a good listener. Girls value other non-physical things more than guys.
That means if you need to hit the gym a bit, do so. A comparable level of Jewish observance. By the way, the above list is in no particular order of importance. And note that some Jewish girls will find one point or a few points above more important than others Bonus factors for Jewish girls for any girls really: For example, you are pursuing a career as a doctor or counselor or you do volunteer work.
That means you do romantic things such as buy a girl flowers or just open the door for her. You can play a musical instrument.
A Balance of Communication I mentioned a balance of communication earlier — that this is a key thing in relationships and certainly in relationships with Jewish girls. What am I talking about here? If one partner talks way more than another it will be a problem.
This is the balance of communication. My general rule for the early stages of dating, which seems to work fairly well, is not to communicate too much. For example, if they take 3 hours to respond to a text message, then you take 3 hours to respond back.
Or if they call you the morning after the 1st date, call them the morning after the 2nd date. You see, different people communicate more or less frequently. If the communication frequency is fairly similar, that is a very good sign. Another rule I would follow in the early stages is to wait about 2 days after a date until I made contact again.
She may just be busy with life! Overall, just try maintain a balance of communication. A Balance of Give and Take What is give and take? It is simply that. It is giving to another person, which can take many forms. And it is taking from another person, which can also take many forms.
Some examples of what can be given or received in a relationship are affection, attention, care, romantic evenings, gifts, foot rubs and even sex. And there are many more examples which I am sure you can also think of. The point is to not let this give and take go out of balance. Girls usually give of themselves quite a lot. Guys can sometimes be guilty of not giving or creating enough in the relationship.
So be wary of this and make sure you give enough to the Jewish girl you are dating or are in a relationship with. Moving Forward and Making a Commitment Commitment. It's a bigggg word. But actually it's not as big or complicated as it sounds. It is just making a firm decision that you want to be with someone. You see, Jewish girls generally have marriage and children in mind. If the relationship is going well, they will probably want things to progress - as it should.
If this is the case, let your partner know so she can move on.