Print Online dating has lost most of its stigma — everyone from grandparents to dwarves has a dedicated dating site. We know from watching TV commercials, plus talking to friends and family members, that long-term, happy relationships can result from a Web match or even speed dating. Three Richmond online daters chimed in with what turns them on to a profile and what leaves them cold.
Ken Williams, who works in local government, has been finding dates online for about four years. He has profiles on a couple of different sites, including Match. His top advice for women? The year-old advises that a woman post more than one picture, and make them active photos — out with friends, having fun. And no glamour shots if a woman posts a picture in soft focus, Williams is not interested. Williams once went out with a woman, believing, after a couple weeks of e-mailing, that she had one child.
She had four, a fact revealed to him on the date. As you might expect, there was no second date. Williams acknowledges, though, that men are a bit more honesty-challenged in the online-dating universe. They tend to oversell themselves, including lying about their height. Some guys fudge their height by as much as 7 inches, year-old Lindsay Schoonover learned. The school security officer and part-time bra fitter is 5-foot-1 — not exactly a tall drink of water — and she met a guy for a blind date off Yahoo!
He was 5 feet 2 inches tall but had led her to believe he was about 5-foot Daphne Patterson, a year-old personal trainer, is dating a guy she met online. Although she tried Match. Photos are important to Patterson, but so is a witty, intelligent profile — preferably with correct spelling.
Keep it positive, Patterson and Williams both say, and make the first date short. Carrie Daichman, founder of It Takes 2, a Central Virginia-based dating service, often sees folks who have looked online and not found what they were looking for.
Richmond is a tough market, especially for newcomers to the area, Daichman says. Schoonover agrees with that assessment, although she sees two different camps of Richmonders: The majority of her daters, ages 24 to 59, are white-collar workers, many of whom dress conservatively for the speed dates.