Tap here to turn on desktop notifications to get the news sent straight to you. What You Need to Know Now. Her body was found in her room at college on May 3; another victim of dating violence. Just as disturbing as her death, is the fact that two months earlier, three Lacrosse players had to pull Huguely off Love at a party, and just days before her murder, there was yet another violent incident.
In addition, her friends reported that Huguely was threatening her verbally, with emails and texts. This is not some isolated incident. A recent survey by Liz Claiborne Inc. Girls ages 16 to 24 are at greatest risk of intimate partner violence. This violence spans across all socioeconomic levels and knows no race. Recently Kim Kardashian has admitted being a victim of violence in her marriage to Damon Thomas.
Then there are the unforgettable photos of Rihanna after she was beaten by Chris Brown. And let's not overlook the increasing degree of control and bizarre behavior of Spencer Pratt toward his wife, Heidi formerly Montag. He recently boasted on an episode of The Hills, as Heidi robotically nodded in agreement, "I don't let her go on TV, no computers.
The only thing Heidi does is read and write poetry and pet puppies. Teenagers need to understand that love does not involve controlling the other person. Elizabeth Miller, a leading expert on teen dating violence. Where is this attitude coming from? Do we live in a culture that promotes this kind of behavior? In order to see the connection between culture and prevalence of violence toward women, we need only to look at popular rap videos with Snoop Dog crowing about "Pimping out" his women referring to them as "Ho's" and "Bitches".
This language degrades and objectifies women as nothing more than objects to satisfy man's sexual pleasures. Then there is the commonly accepted fashion item known as a "Wife-beater" T-shirt, or 12 year old girls sending naked pictures of themselves to pubescent boys in order to become popular. Many advertisements also objectify women and give power solely to the men. We need only to look at the change in pornography over the last few decades to see how accepted violence against women has become.
Years ago "hard core pornography" consisted of a man and a women having sexual intercourse. By today's standards, that would be considered "soft core porn". Today's pornography features young women often performing with multiple partners in violent scenarios that are only acceptable because we convince ourselves that the woman on the screen is getting paid and must therefore be enjoying herself.
What message does this send to young boys about sex and intimacy when there is no respect and no regard shown to the women? Young men may believe: