I did learn some things. I was challenged on certain topics. But, to be honest, I also struggled to connect at times. I cried a few tears. I even wanted to throw the book out the window at one point, but hunkered down and kept on reading. This was a tough assignment! Dating is a topic on which I have a whole lot of head knowledge, but no real practical experience. But these good, God-honoring desires have been, by and large, unfulfilled. Christian dating has become so complicated! While traveling the country, speaking to singles about dating, the authors, psychologists Drs.
Henry Cloud and John Townsend, clearly noted the confusion which resulted from so many mixed messages floating around churches, college campuses, and other Christian young adult circles. So this book addresses the common missteps in dating due to a lack of appropriate boundaries, as well as establishes the good benefits that result from healthy dating relationships, whether or not these relationships lead to the marriage altar.
Cloud and Townsend also discuss sexual boundaries, conflict, risk, romance, unresolved family problems and their impact on dating relationships, and other essential topics. After all, the One who designed emotional connections knows best how they are best conducted, in a way that is satisfying for us and glorifying to him.
This was a breath of fresh air! Dating is simply different in post-college adulthood, and, overall, the topics addressed in Boundaries in Dating are geared toward adults, not the high school and college demographic. Cloud and Townsend speak to the most common relationship challenges, provide responsible advice, and encourage good parameters that we need for all relationships, romantic or otherwise.
Implementing dating boundaries are, for sure,a step in the right direction. Have you established boundaries in dating? What are they, and how have they helped you?