Is it casual dating? Are you seeing each other? Where is this relationship headed? Friends and family, if you could use these categories to identify your dating life then I will not have to ask awkward follow-up questions. Dating for Fun Goal: Enjoyment This type of dating is the no-strings-attached type of dating. The whole purpose of spending time together is for mutual enjoyment.
You enjoy her company and she enjoys your company. You hang out when you want to. There are no expectations except to have fun. And friends spend time with each other to have fun. Dating to See Goal: Knowledge This type of dating is more intentional.
Sure, you can have fun, but the relationship has another purpose as well. That purpose is for you and her to get to know each other, to see if you both want to move into a more serious relationship. You start talking about life goals, your ideas of marriage, if you want to have children and how many, your career plans, your spiritual beliefs, your family background.
This type of dating would include speed dating, blind dates, and online dating. This relationship may or may not be exclusive, and you may or may not be introducing this person to your friends and family. My friend met a nice girl on eHarmony a few months ago. He is from BC and she is from Ontario. They started talking every day, and he has even visited her twice since then. They are trying to get to know each other enough to decide whether to not to move into a serious and committed relationship see below.
Dating to Decide a. It might be informal and private, or it might be a public affair involving family or community approval. In most cases, it involves a commitment to an exclusive relationship with the other person to make this decision. Some couples will introduce each other to the important people in their life: Some couples may travel together. Some couples will try living together the pros and cons of doing this are an entirely different blog post, and we are looking for someone to write intelligently about this so if you are interested in doing this, please let us know.
Some couples find it helpful to go to pre-engagement counselling. This stage of dating requires much intentionality. Dating after Marriage Goal: Growth If you do end up getting engaged and married, you will hopefully continue dating. This stage of dating is much different than the others. Dating after marriage is very important because it gives you exclusive time with your wife which might not happen during the rest of the week. While dating, you have her attention and she has yours.
You can use this time to catch each other up on what has happened in the week, observe how the other person may have changed recently, have important conversations, and make decisions. Having fun together deepens the relationship. Would you add any other types of dating to this list? Answer in the comments.