During the two seminar sessions, several hundred lively and interested young people raised a number of questions. What concerns people about dating now is sensual gratification and sex. No wonder there are so many people who are hurt by their dating experiences. Dating should be something that is full of joy and happiness. When you know the legitimate purpose of dating, you can enjoy your dating experience. One of the basic reasons for dating is social interaction. Wholesome dating experiences can prepare you for a happy, mature, and long lasting marriage.
Unwholesome dating, on the other hand, is fraught with the tragedy of a frail and shortened married life. We see this happen far too often. Another reason for dating is, of course, to choose a spouse. Dating provides you with the opportunity to refine your power of observation. It enables you to make certain what type of personality and disposition is best suited for you. Dating provides the best opportunity for you to find your ideal spouse, and to decide whether the person is the one you would want to spend your life with.
The purpose of dating is not sexual adventure or sexual conquest. Nothing is more of a hindrance to the development of a friendship than immature sex.
When premarital sex is the primary aim of dating, it usually blocks the kind of communication dating is designed for. What is the first point in dating? Therefore, going to a movie on the first date is an unwise idea. Imagine spending two hours sitting shoulder to shoulder in a pitch dark theater with eyes fixed on the screen. What one gets is entertainment, not communication. So, do your best to save the movie date for a later time.
Going to a movie on the first date is an unwise idea. If you are not quite ready to get involved with a boyfriend, or if you are seldom asked for a date but are inclined to have a friendship with a male friend, you may then plan a picnic or a dinner with four or five girl friends and invite four or five male friends to join. If you are a male, you can do likewise. Note should be taken that the number of males and females in such situations need not be exactly equal lest the pressure of matching would becomes too great.
After all, the primary purpose of such gatherings is to get to know each other and have a good time. Young people today are no longer that sensitive to the roles once played by males and females. Instead what they look for — and what they want to become — are understanding and caring people. Cultivate wholesome dating In order to have wholesome dating, careful thought must be given to the entire process from beginning to end.
When you treat your date with sincerity and respect, your future dating should be filled with joy and happiness. This is the approach you should have for the one you love or the one who will become your spouse in the future. You will discover that you are also a beneficiary in the process. They are listed below. You might want to try them.