Quite understandable considering how men are portrayed in all these Korean MVs, dramas, and movies. Unfortunately, boys are boys — even in Korea. They sometimes go MIA, put friends over you, breaks your heart, forget your birthday etc. So here, I list out some of the common occurrences of dating a Korean guy based on my personal experience and of the experiences of my lovely Korean girlfriends.
Note that there are many Korean guys out there, and there are many exceptions. This is just my personal experience, please read it with a light heart. Am I qualified to talk about this?
They both have never lived in another country before. Over hours of 1: So what is it like to have a Korean boyfriend? On keeping in touch: This made it hard for me to adapt to ABC guys that were texting 2,3 messages per day or every two three days because Korean guys will text you every day.
Many also call you every day. You get freaking spoiled sometimes annoyed by how much they will contact you, but this means anxiety triples when they become MIA. Some extremely self-aware guys would put on bb-cream, color contact lens this one is more rare , and fake heels inside the shoes.
Once you get serious, then the paying becomes a bit more even, maybe girls pay 3: You can easily get used to this … But there are consequences that follow. It can be patronizing at times. In Korea, age determines how you refer to one another unlike in Canada where everyone calls each other names.
This phrase carries an odd mix of varying sentiments that ranges from being responsible, protective, to having more power, status, and right.
Good thing that comes with this phenomenon is that Korean guys in general are very responsible and almost trained to take care of girls in all ways possible. Let me list a few that I have celebrated: So much work for guys? As much as guys go crazy with these celebrations, girls also put equal effort in preparing — often some hand-made stuff for their special other.
I know many of my non-Korean friends find this freaky, but I must say small things like same keychains are kind of cute.
You get used to it. Couple t-shirts No privacy: I guess all this chivalry comes with consequences. Not all, but surely many Korean boyfriends will ask to check your phone, kakaotalk or what-nots. They expect to know your entire schedule in and out and also expects you to update him on your life constantly. Some are really extreme: The tolerance of acceptable interaction with the opposite gender is vastly lower for couples in Korea. Some things that I witnessed Korean couples often fight about: Okay, I may be exaggerating a tiny bit, but Korean couples tend to be extremely bonded and with such bond comes such craziness.
I think breakups rarely end in good terms among Korean couples. I see tons of Canadian friends being friends with their ex but I rarely see Korean couples continuing to be friends after a break-up. Meeting friends of a Korean boyfriend is one of the most stressful parts of the ordeal, imo. So in my experience, they put you on a pedestal and subtlety judge you.
But like with any culture, being in a relationship requires work from both partners. Also, most problems can be overcome with appropriate communication. I remember an ABC girl rejected a Korean boy because he held the umbrella for her on a rainy day and she found that patronizing.
I hope you enjoyed the article.