Ulrica Wihlborg December 13, Problems surfaced when Aguilera-whose own parents divorced when she was 7-returned from filming the musical Burlesque in March. Now the Grammy winner, who turns 30 Dec. Things were so unhealthy and unhappy for both Jordan and me, I knew I had to end it. I had bouts of extreme anxiety. You met Jordan at 21 and married him at At the time, it felt absolutely right. Jordan and I were best friends first, and then it grew to be more.
He represented stability and love and safety-qualities I never got from a male figure growing up. I felt we could share the rest of our lives together. I wanted to marry someone who would be a good father.
When did things go wrong? We were great the first year after Max was born. I was nurturing Max and felt independent in that relationship. Then I went right into filming Burlesque [in fall ]. I was growing leaps and bounds daily. I went from being a girl to a woman. I had a lot of things stirring inside of me that I felt were being suppressed. We tried to work on the marriage and figure out a common ground.
But the problems were obvious. There were moments of disconnect. He represented safety for me years ago. But our relationship changed.
We were both looking for different things. We went through a period of trying to reconnect and spend more family time together. We took that trip to Italy together. But at the same time, I knew Max would benefit from us separating. Your parents divorced when you were 7. Did that affect your decision?
I come from a home filled with a lot of tension. My parents were not right to stay together [as long as they did]. What was it like growing up in that environment? My mom tried for years to stay in a marriage that she was not happy in. I would watch her torture herself emotionally.
I was an old soul in that way. I felt more loved and secure once they were separated. Have you and Jordan been able to remain friends? How emotional has the split been? But I can try to treasure those memories and create other memories and dreams for myself. I realized that for a long time during my marriage, I was alienating myself from a lot of my close friends. I rediscovered that during this period in my life.
Has Max seen you cry? I keep my tears away from my son. What do you do to help him cope? I try to make him feel as loved and adored as he is.
Every chance I get, I squeeze him a little harder, give him more kisses and try to make him feel as special as he really is to me. I want to be the first person he sees when he wakes up and the last before he goes to sleep.
I still have his baby monitor. My heart just melts whenever I watch him sleep. What do you love to do together? We go to the zoo. How does it feel to be dating again? Matthew is a special person. We had a really strong friendship on the movie. Once I filed for divorce, we started dating. I just left a five-year marriage. Are you in love? Do you still believe in love and marriage? That idea will never die.
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