Coupled with being at the prime age where hormones are raging and personal and professional development are at its peak, finding love and companionship can certainly feel like a struggle. My oldest cousin finished her nursing degree this past May, and proceeded to marry her high school sweetheart of about 9 years. I attended their wedding two weeks ago and was inspired and beyond ecstatic to be able to see their relationship come to final fruition.
As a senior anticipating graduation in May, there has been a greater emphasis on planning for my future than ever before. Having completed various internships and research experiences, finding a job and applying to graduate school has not been as great a concern of mine.
Perhaps a more honest reason for writing this is that I hope to invoke a sense of sympathy and reassurance amongst others and myself who may be in a similar situation. Given that we millennials are at an age where we are figuring out who we are and what we want each in a professional, personal and romantic context , it is ultimately important to consider all confounding factors in any given frustrating situation.
Therefore, we can only explain so much of the occurrences in our lives, and sometimes, there has to be some reasoning that can help us cope, learn, and move on from our mistakes. As humans, we are bound to make errors, and taking the initiative and action to overcome these blunders are really what help us grow and become successful. Perhaps we may start to blame our lack of successes on our outward appearance, or we may start pointing fingers at certain actions or personality traits. These bouts of self-loathing are not healthy.
Most of the time, it is not our fault. For instance, many are discovering their sexual orientation. There may be a possibility that one or both partners in the relationship are truly realizing who they are. For others, they may be struggling to balance their personal needs and responsibilities, and as a result, are not ready for a relationship. My parents tell me to focus on school and relationships later. I will always stand by this pragmatic advice because the professional choices we make now will help impact where we end up in life later.
However, that is not to say that we discredit our emotions, wants, and feelings. If there is someone attractive we want to date, then by all means, while being responsible with regards to other commitments being academic, extracurricular, or professional , then certainly pursue that romantic relationship.
Many unhealthy coping tactics, such as drug and alcohol abuse, arise as a result of a lack of proper acknowledgment of anxiety, stress and feelings.
Companionship and romantic relationships are important for this reason; having someone to share your life with can help ease the stress of being a college student.
It is important, however to also have strong platonic and familial relationships with others not only in case a relationship ends or does not work out, but also just having other close people in your life that you can depend on and for support is important! Long story short, as college students, we are at the age where we are going to want to pursue and be in romantic relationships.
However, there are a plethora of issues that may prevent our desired relationship outcome. We will be quick to unhealthily blame ourselves when really there are many true reasons that are not quite apparent to the eye. Therefore, at the end of the day it is most important for us to embrace who we are, foster good friendships with others, and to just work to be the best and most wholesome version of ourselves. The following two tabs change content below.