If you are okay with being alone and not interested in dating, do what feels right for your life. There are many things that people must endure here on earth. Two of the hardest things? Both being in love and losing love. Being in love is awesome when it goes the right way. Losing love feels tantamount to missing a limb.
Yet, you are supposed just to pick up and carry on. What drives this interest? In reality, you look around and see you enjoy life just as much, if not more, than all those people telling you what you are missing out on. We all go through a whole lot of hurt to recognize when things are good. If you never try to love, then you lose from the beginning. Hey, it is your choice, and I totally get it.
There are just some people who would rather be on their own. The truth is not everyone is meant to be in a relationship, have children, or even find love.
Sometimes we fall in love super hard and think that person is our soul mate. Sometimes death comes a whole lot earlier than we want it to.
There are all sorts of ways we can be wounded in love. Although tainted by the feelings of hurt or betrayal, love is a feeling like nothing else on earth. Maybe you should experience it again.
Why does love hurt when it goes bad? I remember growing up thinking their distaste for one another was just what couplehood was like. They love each other more than they love their next breath, and they respect and want the best for one another.
Real love does exist. I have seen it; I have lived it. Instead of choosing not to be interested in dating, maybe just choose better and take it slower next time. Just take it slow and be friends first. What are twin souls? If you are more interested in a promotion at work than dating, that is totally cool. You might find the rewards that you receive from your work accomplishments provide you with enough satisfaction in life.
No one defines what happiness and success look like but you. If you already have both, or know you can without a mate, then more power to you! Relationships, even marriage, does not equal a home in the suburbs, a minivan, or a bunch of kids. Find someone who wants the same things in life. I gotcha on this one. Relationships are never drama-free. To make a relationship work, you must put in the time and effort.
If you want a drama-free life, then not dating might be the answer for you. The best feeling is being able to make decisions for yourself and do your own thing. If you want to watch porn, buy a car that is too expensive, or go away for the weekend, not having someone to answer to is one of the most liberating things on earth.
Only being responsible for you and not having anyone treat you captive or like a child is incredible. If you want to live the single life, have at it. When you date someone long enough, there comes a time when things move forward and long-term options need to be discussed.
The thing is, you can date and not have to be tied to someone forever. Should you get married? Loners are people who like to be on their own. It is a totally reasonable option and choice. If you are someone who likes to be on your own, then that is your decision to make.